"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lessons From Gran Torino

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No one can play the badass persona better than Clint Eastwood. Even now when he's very old, he's still one bad motherfvcker.
 

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Great movie. When I saw it I couldn't help but think about the DJ forums here, what with Clint giving the Asian kid advice about not being a wimp and asking the girl out.

I'd leave the racist stuff out though :)
 

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Hahah a senile old dude pulling guns out on youth minorities....classic Eastwood
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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rocksoff said:
Hahah a senile old dude pulling guns out on youth minorities....classic Eastwood
haha police only care when a white person gets killed. - classic police force.

that being said, still a great movie on manhood.
 

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What I love about Eastwood is that his "badassness" seems genuine. It doesn't seem contrived unlike most action heroes. Guys like Vin Diesel etc. come off as extremely fake and cheesy. On the other hand, Eastwood's persona is so genuine that he is even scary as a geriatric!
 

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"You let you walk out. You know why? Because you are a big, fat pu$$y."
 

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A friend of mine lived in the same neighborhood as Eastwood for a while - Clint yelled at him for taking a shortcut through his lawn while walking his daughter to school - hahahaha.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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He's bitter and ultimately impotent.

It's a great movie, don't get me wrong, but there's no lesson to be learned from it. He's man of the house without a family, an alpha without a pack. That's why he takes the kid under his wing, that's why the Asian family are so receptive to him - they are a family without a man of the house.

He's at that time of life where you look back and wonder whether you've done well for yourself or not. He's despairing because he did things in the war that he thinks were wrong, he's disappointed in his kids, he's unhappy with what he's made of his life, he's bitter and resentful of everyone around him.

He isn't an alpha male, maybe he could have been, maybe at some point in Walt Kowalski's life, he was an alpha male, but not in his last days as shown in Gran Torino
 

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I do agree with you Proselytiser, but there are some lessons that can be found in this movie.
Just like the others already said he tells Toad not being a ***** and approach the girl. He learns him to stand up for himself and not to give a sh¡t about anybody else.
He asks the kid "what can you do" kid answers " i dno" so he let him count the birds in a tree. A bit later he's doin repairs to an house.
You are able to do a lot of things along as you try:D
Even though he doesn't display a real alpha male, he does show more manliness then most men have these days imo:rolleyes:
 

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I WK is capable of being alpha, he just doubts himself, spending his days drinking and being bitter.

Spending time with the kid brings the alpha out in WK. WK shows him how to be a man, ask girls out, build things and not to take any crap from people.

It also shows that family is important. He sees his son as an AFC. It's true, every family could benefit from having a man of the house.
 

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His son is an AFC, his wife dominates him and tries to leech off the family fortune. WK quotes that she went through his wife's jewellery, and you see her roll her eyes when he gives the house to the church. He resents his entitled grand-daughter as well and you can see why, when she is so disappointed at not getting the Gran Torino
 

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Proselytiser said:
He's bitter and ultimately impotent.

It's a great movie, don't get me wrong, but there's no lesson to be learned from it. He's man of the house without a family, an alpha without a pack. That's why he takes the kid under his wing, that's why the Asian family are so receptive to him - they are a family without a man of the house.

He's at that time of life where you look back and wonder whether you've done well for yourself or not. He's despairing because he did things in the war that he thinks were wrong, he's disappointed in his kids, he's unhappy with what he's made of his life, he's bitter and resentful of everyone around him.

He isn't an alpha male, maybe he could have been, maybe at some point in Walt Kowalski's life, he was an alpha male, but not in his last days as shown in Gran Torino
He definitely is an alpha male. As alpha as they get. His character in that movie is the perfect role model, imo.

He is respected and feared by everyone, he walks, he talks, he acts like an alpha male. His son may be a selfish fool but he even he and his wife know that when clint eastwood says get out of his house, you do it. People around him may try to sway him but in the end he's boss.

Clint Eastwood stars as Walt Kowalski, a widower who holds
onto his prejudices despite the changes in his Michigan
neighborhood and the world around him.
He might not have a huge financial success and a famous legacy to his name, but you respect him.

The way he conducts himself when he enters the asian house, the way he talks with the priest, everything about his body language and actions is ultra-masculine and powerful.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ease said:
The way he conducts himself when he enters the asian house, the way he talks with the priest, everything about his body language and actions is ultra-masculine and powerful.

How much of that is Walt and how much is Clint I wonder, really.
 

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How much of that is Walt and how much is Clint I wonder, really.
It's all Clint. He might not be that bad and grumpy in every day life, but he couldn't play all those masculine figures if he wasn't masculine himself. Otherwise he wouldn't be convincing.

Clint Eastwood is also a perfect example why looks matter a lot. Suppose that a little Asian with little facial hair would play Josey Wales. He spits on the ground and says: 'This isn't necessary', while looking his opponent in the eyes, ready to draw his big ass revolvers.

Would you think like ''Wow he's all masculine!'' ?. No you wouldn't, because his behaviour wouldn't be congruent with his looks. You would laugh your ass off because a little boy acts all tough. Clint is a bad ass alpha man because he looks like a bad ass alpha man.
 

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Great movie.

The ending sucked though just like American History X's ending.

Derek should've shaved his head and rejoined after Danny got blown away lmfao. :crackup:

And Walt Kowalski should've killed every last one of those gangbanger fvcks then blew the smoke off his gun barrel and turned to the asian kid he befriended in the movie and in a grizzled voice said "thats how its done junior".

*Roll credits* :up:
 

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Haha, I agree with KontrollerX, that's how it should have ended and that's how I expected it, I watched it right after watching Good Bad n Ugly. WK was alpha in many respects as has been noted above, his natural dominance, his telling the guy, 'grow some balls and ask the girl'. I was nervous as **** watching that last scene expecting him to shoot down all the asians with a gun hidden under his shirt... hahaha

But maybe the movie is about how masculinity is repressed these days, he is 'living in the 50s' (direct quote) and the pride he takes in his independence, and his fierce loyalty to his neighbours (even though he has been raised to hate Asians) ultimately results in him being shot to death without even a whimper in his own defence...
 

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Proselytiser said:
But maybe the movie is about how masculinity is repressed these days, he is 'living in the 50s' (direct quote) and the pride he takes in his independence, and his fierce loyalty to his neighbours (even though he has been raised to hate Asians) ultimately results in him being shot to death without even a whimper in his own defence...
You do realize he didn't defend himself on purpose right? He was a "law abiding 'merican" and rather then commit murder he got the gang to murder him resulting in them looking at life in prison.

It was a seriously alpha ending.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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