Harry Wilmington
Master Don Juan
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- Aug 19, 2012
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Hey guys:
I'm pretty swamped with other things today, but I wanted to type up a quick message on here. I read the posts here everyday, and there are a lot of guys in situations where they have one-i-tis for a girl, or have a girl that's showing them mixed signals, i.e. showing interest then not returning phone calls, flaking on dates, etc.
Many of these guys have been going after these same girls for months or even YEARS, and are still on here asking questions like, "So how can I finally get with her?" or "Do you think I should give her one more shot?" (which leads to them giving the girls another shot later, then another, then another...)
Guys, I'm just letting you know: life is way, WAAAAY too short to be giving constant attention to a girl that's JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
I'm 30, and I was a late bloomer in terms of knowing what to do with women. I think back on all the years I spent chasing after different girls, sometimes for months at a time, only to NOT end up with them. The sad part is, during this time, my gut told me they weren't really interested, but my ego kept saying "they'll change their mind - they just have to be around me more often" (which is hard to do when they're not returning your calls or accepting dates, lol).
Don't let your ego cause you to miss out on a girl that really DOES like you. You have nothing to prove by making a girl that doesn't like you suddenly change her mind - and the odds of that happening are close to 1% or less.
This is especially true if you're in high school or college, or even in your early 20s. Believe me, that girl you have one-i-tis for at age 18 will be a distant memory when you hit 30. (And, when you find her on Facebook years from now, her looks will be deteriorating and you'll think to yourself: "Wow... WHY was I so obsessed with her back then??")
Bottom line: if a girl is showing blatant disinterest (or waning signs of interest), better to cut your losses and find someone who actually WILL want to be with you!
-Harry Wilmington
I'm pretty swamped with other things today, but I wanted to type up a quick message on here. I read the posts here everyday, and there are a lot of guys in situations where they have one-i-tis for a girl, or have a girl that's showing them mixed signals, i.e. showing interest then not returning phone calls, flaking on dates, etc.
Many of these guys have been going after these same girls for months or even YEARS, and are still on here asking questions like, "So how can I finally get with her?" or "Do you think I should give her one more shot?" (which leads to them giving the girls another shot later, then another, then another...)
Guys, I'm just letting you know: life is way, WAAAAY too short to be giving constant attention to a girl that's JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
I'm 30, and I was a late bloomer in terms of knowing what to do with women. I think back on all the years I spent chasing after different girls, sometimes for months at a time, only to NOT end up with them. The sad part is, during this time, my gut told me they weren't really interested, but my ego kept saying "they'll change their mind - they just have to be around me more often" (which is hard to do when they're not returning your calls or accepting dates, lol).
Don't let your ego cause you to miss out on a girl that really DOES like you. You have nothing to prove by making a girl that doesn't like you suddenly change her mind - and the odds of that happening are close to 1% or less.
This is especially true if you're in high school or college, or even in your early 20s. Believe me, that girl you have one-i-tis for at age 18 will be a distant memory when you hit 30. (And, when you find her on Facebook years from now, her looks will be deteriorating and you'll think to yourself: "Wow... WHY was I so obsessed with her back then??")
Bottom line: if a girl is showing blatant disinterest (or waning signs of interest), better to cut your losses and find someone who actually WILL want to be with you!
-Harry Wilmington