lesson learned

[MikeEdward1973]

No need to reply to this thread, I'm just making myself articulate a few truths I learned tonight:

- Don't peruse women that you're only half-interested in, because they'll sense it, and end it first, which is doubly frustrating.

- Don't meet up with a women and her friends if you haven't seen her for a couple weeks, and not 100% sure where you stand with her.

- No women is ever 'in the bag,' and she'll turn on you as soon as she loses interest, which is quite possibly right after you lose interest, which is a result of you getting ****y and thinking she's 'in the bag.'

- be very careful about dating women who don't drink.

- if you're not feeling it by the 3rd date, forget it.

thanks, just needed a place to vent.

 

[3countriesPlan]

why be careful of dating a woman who doesn't drink?

 

[Chrispy]

Good, true observations. Keep em coming if you have any.

"- be very careful about dating women who don't drink." - might be more of a personal preference?

I am always advocating spinning more plates so that you don't get a stuck on one particular girl. But at the same time you have to give it that 100% with each, and as you said, not be half-hearted because they will sense it.

 

[MikeEdward1973]

Good, true observations. Keep em coming if you have any.

"- be very careful about dating women who don't drink." - might be more of a personal preference?

I am always advocating spinning more plates so that you don't get a stuck on one particular girl. But at the same time you have to give it that 100% with each, and as you said, not be half-hearted because they will sense it.

Thanks, Chrispy.

I was just venting after an evening of hard-learned lessons. Long story that I won't bore everyone here with.

But with regards to avoiding women who don't drink, you're right. It's just a personal preference. You can probably imagine the reasoning behind it. But that's just me.

 

[darkme_legendary]

Personally, I think you are overgeneralizing.
This is probably because you take these rules mostly on what happened in a single night.
Experiment more with them. Test more. I bet that you can break many of them many times and still get the results that you want.

 

[betterthandead]

I agree with the advice on dating women you are half interested in.

Being in a dead-end relationship sucks really bad where the two of you can't even have a good conversation where you feel relieved than missing her when she's out of the picture.

A friend of mines is planning to marry a woman he met only 3 months before announcing an engagement for marriage. I look at her and look at him and I'm shaking my head because they seem pretty damn mismatched. People can tell a mile when two people just don't click well and are just putting it up for show. Another term for this would be "half interested." It's kinda like an outgoing artist working as an accountant in an office. That person just does it for the purpose of money and security but inside that person feels dead.

 

[MikeEdward1973]

Personally, I think you are overgeneralizing.
This is probably because you take these rules mostly on what happened in a single night.
Experiment more with them. Test more. I bet that you can break many of them many times and still get the results that you want.

Probably not. For me, these are truths learned as the result of experience.

 

[MikeEdward1973]

Another term for this would be "half interested."

Half-interested...that's the word I was looking for.

 

[jophil28]

No need to reply to this thread, I'm just making myself articulate a few truths I learned tonight:

- Don't peruse women that you're only half-interested in, because they'll sense it, and end it first, which is doubly frustrating.

- Don't meet up with a women and her friends if you haven't seen her for a couple weeks, and not 100% sure where you stand with her.

- No women is ever 'in the bag,' and she'll turn on you as soon as she loses interest, which is quite possibly right after you lose interest, which is a result of you getting ****y and thinking she's 'in the bag.'

- be very careful about dating women who don't drink.

- if you're not feeling it by the 3rd date, forget it.

thanks, just needed a place to vent.

WE are talking about female human behavior. This is not science, and therefor is subject to speculation, interpretation, skewed perceptions and bias, not to mention mental illness in the study subjects.

Take your first point..

Some women will pursue you harder if they detect only moderate interest by you. She may read this as "indifference" and it may trigger her into chase mode. IT is well known that women "love a challenge" and often "want what they cannot have "..

 

[MikeEdward1973]

WE are talking about female human behavior. This not science, and therefor subject to speculation, interpretation. skewed perceptions and bias, not to mention mental illness in the study subjects.

Take your first point,
Some women will pursue you harder if they detect only moderate interest by you. She may read this as "indifference" and it may trigger her into chase mode. IT is well known that women love a challenge" and often "want what they cannot have "..

For me, personally, there's little value is pursuing women I'm not really interested in. Would rather invest time elsewhere. If they become interested more in me as a result, it means little, since there's probably a good reason I'm only 1/2 interested in the first place.

 

[jophil28]

For me, personally, there's little value is pursuing women I'm not really interested in. Would rather invest time elsewhere. If they become interested more in me as a result, it means little, since there's probably a good reason I'm only 1/2 interested in the first place.

OK, I take your point.

 

[Colossus]

- be very careful about dating women who don't drink.

I totally agree. I think it belies underlying problems. If an adult woman does not drink at ALL, not even semi-socially, there is a personal reason for it. Plus, what fun is it to date a woman who doesn't drink? Getting inebriated with your woman is half of why alcohol exists.

 

[mrRuckus]

Some girls i really want to see everyday and they want to see me that often as well.

But i purposely make it so that somedays i won't see or talk to her just because i figure it'll work better in the long run rather than burning us out in short order and getting bored... or it leaves her not appreciating me because i'm always there all the time and am taken for granted... but if she misses me she'll do things like cook me dinner or just climb up all over me since i've been gone a few days especially when she's used to me being around a lot. Oh and it actually makes me miss her and for *me* to really want to see her again.

This is the same concept as lifting. You might want to lift weights everyday but really it's better to just suck it up and do what's better in the long run.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Mike,
Oh Dear chewing on lifes gristle again.....Dating is a tough apprenticeship.....Certainly a woman is much easier to seduce if she imbibes,having said that a lot of girls particularly Asians just can't drink,so why restrict your choice?...I have been known to enjoy a spot of Burgendy with the Sunday Roast,so appreciate the edge it takes off a meal when she doesn't drink....A word of advice from a fool,never drink if she doesn't indulge,can be disastrous....As to losing interest in them,look very often that really makes them lift their game...It really does pay when you have no special interest to have a few old friends you can seek comfort from,when your lusts have been satisfied there is no need to pursue other than quality girls...Your observations on their fickle natures is right on the mark Mike,and no one can be so nasty and vicious as a Woman who turns against you,after a while you learn to pick them,as Kipling said "The female of the species is more deadly than the Male"....