You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Also, let's not forget that despite what politically correct myths say about homosexuality, most gay people are not born that way. Homosexuality is, to a large extent, a response to various environmental factors. Most lesbians are ugly and fat because those are the types of women who are least likely to attract men. Since they don't get much male attention, they turn to the only available alternative.( . )( . ) said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
By this logic gay men would be gay because they cannot get laid with a woman. However this is not the case as there are very very gorgeous gay males. If you are a gay male you would not be able to get laid if you are fat, while a fat heterosexual male has higher chances. My guess is that because men are more visual overall than women, gay males need to be more of an eye candy to get laid versus lesbians. So lesbians just dont need to look as good to get laid. With that in mind I still dont know a single obese lesbian, I only know very slim/fit ones. But I know only one obese female all in all, and she is a hetero.Bokanovsky said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
All that comes from current events. News stories in regards to Western men/women dynamic will generally always be negative.bmp2cpm said:
