"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Legends of SS : help me close this -I think I have mommy issues - , 3rd married woman !

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This hottie that I got number and within 3 msgs I asked her out ! She said busy at night with daughter ~ last msg I sent was; yeah understandable , daughter comes first ~ either way if you are up for daytime (I asked her for a night hang out, which she say daughter blah blah) than msg me , no worries

today is 4th day and I was left on read !!
However today on my way , I ran into her - few feet away she was with her husband , she noticed me before I did .- she tried to ignore me and my grin become bigger - noticed her body become stiff , eyes wide open , tried to look away obviously (husband) than force herself to look at me no blinking .

this made me interested again to hook up with her .

Legends of Sosuave , how would you proceed ?!
Mission : F closing

please don’t lecture me on morals and stuff !
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is a married woman with kids.

Morals aside, if you don't want to risk ending up dead, I'd probably keep swiping on your apps for a single woman - especially since this guy knows what you look like now.
Fair enough ~
 

Prepostereax

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She's flirting with you for the attention and validation, bro
Very unlikely she actually intends to bite
 

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how did you meet her, cold approach or regular contact that you will interact with in the future?

yes she is married. you know that, and she knows that. her being married does not really lower your chances, might even increase them.
if you succeed, this usually is devastating for the other man. in very deep ways. its also really common and that's why your chances are high.

why does it make your more interested than before ? is mogging another man in this way cool ??
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She's flirting with you for the attention and validation, bro
Very unlikely she actually intends to bite
I see ; I will leave it on that msg , unless she reached out

if I ever run into her solo, I am thinking of commenting on her husband , maybe like oh he’s a handsome, does he has good performance.! Not sure if a good idea -
 

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how did you meet her, cold approach or regular contact that you will interact with in the future?

yes she is married. you know that, and she knows that. her being married does not really lower your chances, might even increase them.
if you succeed, this usually is devastating for the other man. in very deep ways. its also really common and that's why your chances are high.

why does it make your more interested than before ? is mogging another man in this way cool ??
warm approach at a printing shop ~ interested because she acted that way along her husband , - and it’s a hint that she knows what she’s doing is wrong but has a “wild” side or guts to do something “sinful” taboo -
 

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warm approach at a printing shop ~ interested because she acted that way along her husband , - and it’s a hint that she knows what she’s doing is wrong but has a “wild” side or guts to do something “sinful” taboo -
how about you just approach the husband and ask him if its ok for him. that way you will have no bad karma. hehe.
 

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Pursue and close her :D
Seduce and destroy - no mercy :devil:

hey, no skin off my nose if her husband finds you afterwards and beats you up! :rofl:

but seriously tho, why does lusting after married women = mommy issues? Not sure that’s correct interpretation
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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