"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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leaving a girl wanting more at a party

another_nice_guy

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I think a lot of guys at parties are guilty of seeing a girl they like and zoning in on her and just talking to her endlessly. Therefore giving the girl way too much power and even if you have good chat, appearing desperate.

Its just occurred to me how much better it would be to talk for say 10 minutes and then make your excuses and go talk to someone else. "hey, I just saw an old friend come in the door, good talking to you." That way leaving the girl wanting more and showing that you arent fixated just on her. Which will also hopefully mean a bit of mystery.

I remembered a few years ago in college I was hitting on a girl at a party and despite things looking good at first I was just showing her way too much attention so I went to another room and did my own thing and a few hours she came through and I got her number.

I´m recently single so think will try this technique next time I´m out.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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mahoney

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well of course! there's really no need to try and smother a girl, no one really likes that - and she's gone to the party presumably to do more than just speak to you the whole time

all conversations have a natural arc and timeframe - its good to pay attention to this and leave at the right moment (that way it doesnt become dull, and there's always something not quite finished)
 

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Back in my HS party days I always did my rounds. I made it a point to talk to every girl I knew, and be introduced to some new ones. I would circle the place a couple times drinking and having a good time, focusing on body language and interest levels. I'd scope out the one with the highest IL and pay more attention to her, then seclude and fvck. Sometimes I'd get lucky and come back, circle around a bit and hit up another girl also had high interest and I'd get 2 lays in one night. On my 19th birthday I got 3, I wrote a LR about it a long time ago. But yes, make rounds my man. But also keep in mind that if you leave them unattended another guy is going to try and swoop in, keep your sh!t on lock at the same time.

-Scars
 

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Scars said:
Back in my HS party days I always did my rounds. I made it a point to talk to every girl I knew, and be introduced to some new ones. I would circle the place a couple times drinking and having a good time, focusing on body language and interest levels. I'd scope out the one with the highest IL and pay more attention to her, then seclude and fvck. Sometimes I'd get lucky and come back, circle around a bit and hit up another girl also had high interest and I'd get 2 lays in one night. On my 19th birthday I got 3, I wrote a LR about it a long time ago. But yes, make rounds my man. But also keep in mind that if you leave them unattended another guy is going to try and swoop in, keep your sh!t on lock at the same time.

-Scars

Respect. :yes:

That's really living it up.
 

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well i met her a girl the other day on the beach. kiss closed her. then i told her to go hang with her friends. im not trying to be mean. it was just time for her to hang with her friends and i would hang out with mine.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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another_nice_guy said:
I think a lot of guys at parties are guilty of seeing a girl they like and zoning in on her and just talking to her endlessly. Therefore giving the girl way too much power and even if you have good chat, appearing desperate.

Its just occurred to me how much better it would be to talk for say 10 minutes and then make your excuses and go talk to someone else. "hey, I just saw an old friend come in the door, good talking to you." That way leaving the girl wanting more and showing that you arent fixated just on her. Which will also hopefully mean a bit of mystery.

I remembered a few years ago in college I was hitting on a girl at a party and despite things looking good at first I was just showing her way too much attention so I went to another room and did my own thing and a few hours she came through and I got her number.

I´m recently single so think will try this technique next time I´m out.
I got a different perspective from yours bro.

I think u gotta hit the iron while it is still hot.

If you go somewhereelse to talk to other people, her attention towards

you can fade away and other guys might kick in.

So, if you are quite certain that she is interested in you then stay with her

and finally bang her man.
 

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This.

keemojung said:
I got a different perspective from yours bro.

I think u gotta hit the iron while it is still hot.

If you go somewhereelse to talk to other people, her attention towards

you can fade away and other guys might kick in.

So, if you are quite certain that she is interested in you then stay with her

and finally bang her man.
 

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i think you do have the right idea. always leave the conversation on a high note. this will keep her wanting more. if you show a willingness to walk away, it shows confidence, and that your not just looking to get laid. talk to as many people at the party as you can. when she sees this, you are a fun, social guy, life of the party, the leader of your social circle, all attractive qualities. when you go back and re-initiate the conversation with her, her attraction levels should be higher. she should also fight for more of your attention now, and not want you to leave again. thats when you close.
 

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thevilittletroll said:
i think you do have the right idea. always leave the conversation on a high note. this will keep her wanting more. if you show a willingness to walk away, it shows confidence, and that your not just looking to get laid. talk to as many people at the party as you can. when she sees this, you are a fun, social guy, life of the party, the leader of your social circle, all attractive qualities. when you go back and re-initiate the conversation with her, her attraction levels should be higher. she should also fight for more of your attention now, and not want you to leave again. thats when you close.
I used to do this and u know what I fu(ked up big that night.

Her attraction towards me faded away and then some guys come in.

There is also a chance that you might not find her bcuz if her friend

wanna leave, she might leave with her like the sheep walk out the door.
 
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