leaves and comes back

[Ryno121]

I have been dating a girl for over 2.5 years. We get into disagreements on a weekly basis that seem not to get resolved. She has a pattern on leaving me during the argument, then blocking me in her phone so that I can't text or call her. She tells me that she wants to leave the relationship on a regular basis but then continues to email or even call/text when she feels like it. She reels me back in and I start to talk to her again. Quite a few times, during her " calling it quits " stage I have found another girl to hang out with. She finds out about the girl and then I am a cheater because I am still in communicate with her.
I do care and love her but the back and forth just won't seem to stop. Her temper during arguements leads to verbal abuse such as she telling me she hates me, wishes that my plane would crash while on a business trip, threaten she is going to **** other guys and calling me names such as pig, coward, piece of ****.

I am not sure why I seek her out so much but I know she does care and love me. I have asked her to just please stop the verbal abuse and leaving me and no other women would ever exist.

Please let me know if you think I am cheating on her if she leaves me and tells me were done or if I am in the right. Any thoughts or suggestions are appreciated

 

[sodbuster]

She's NUTS. Find a NORMAL woman..... one who isn't always looking for a fight. IF you want to keep her around until you find a replacement, fine. BUT this one does NOT need to be in your life

 

[Moroder]

DEFCON 1.

Her way of "loving and caring" for you is destructive, abusive and will only make your life suck, not enrich it. Do not believe that you can change her, improve her, whatever. Don not try to "save" her from herself. You cannot "save" a burning zombie-ridden nuclear waste facility.

Read up on BPD and co-dependency. By all means ingest bradd80's excellent guide to BPDs, for instance on this page:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=197705&page=5

Prepare yourself to eject from this "relationship". Do it fast, never look back. But do come here if you need support. This woman has been fücking with your mind, you need to get it back. Many of us have. Welcome to the club.

 

[johntab67]

^^^^^^^^^
This!

 

[Scaramouche]

Well Ryno,
Perhaps you are our our Journalist back again...but no matter the DJ philosophy deserves to be spread far and wide....Your Girl is using the same tactics that players use...."Elastico Bandico"...However the boot is on the other foot,as she pushes away you you come back...just be civil...tell her to stop playing games and grow up a bit!...Tell her you are seeing another Girl,and she will be back on the scene like a bad Penny LOL.