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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LEARNING TO DANCE TANGO

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Hi, i was thinking to learn to dance tango as another way to improve my DJ's skills, because you must stay in direct contact with a woman. But what makes me hesitate it's because I think that dancing is effeminate for a man (espacialy most of the modern dance styles). In my opinion Tango is one of the few styles of dance where the man doesn't display effeminate behaviors.

Any advice or story is well accepted
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hi, i was thinking to learn to dance tango as another way to improve my DJ's skills, because you must stay in direct contact with a woman. But what makes me hesitate it's because I think that dancing is effeminate for a man (espacialy most of the modern dance styles). In my opinion Tango is one of the few styles of dance where the man doesn't display effeminate behaviors.

Any advice or story is well accepted
Dancing is an excellent way to meet women. In addition to Tango, also consider swing dancing.

-Augustus-
 

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There is nothing effeminate about dancing. That part is all in your head.

American Tango is easy to learn.

Argentine Tango is very complicated and takes dedication.

But in general, dancing is great to learn.
Ok partially agree on that. For example, tango, acrobatic rock n roll, rockabilly etc. , the woman needs the man to dance.
But if you think at Caribbean dances or the modern sh.it that you see today i think that the movements and the facial expression, the way of dressing of the men are effeminate
 

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Ok partially agree on that. For example, tango, acrobatic rock n roll, rockabilly etc. , the woman needs the man to dance.
But if you think at Caribbean dances or the modern sh.it that you see today i think that the movements and the facial expression, the way of dressing of the men are effeminate
Fair enough. I get where you are coming from.

But i would think more in terms of, “Is this style of dance ‘me’?” “Can I see myself doing the XYZ dance?”

If you prefer a style with the man leading the woman (like most of us on here), then absolutely go with that.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Fair enough. I get where you are coming from.

But i would think more in terms of, “Is this style of dance ‘me’?” “Can I see myself doing the XYZ dance?”

If you prefer a style with the man leading the woman (like most of us on here), then absolutely go with that.
Thru male leading female dance a man gains masculine valuation and amplification with ladies who want to dance with him. And you dont even have to have sex to get it.
 

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Thru male leading female dance a man gains masculine valuation and amplification with ladies who want to dance with him. And you dont even have to have sex to get it.
And by that should be easier to get sex with the ladies you dance with?
 

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And by that should be easier to get sex with the ladies you dance with?
Yep it should. They can test ride you and feel your body. Even if your dont fvck your dance partner ones who like you will increase your sexual and masculine swag. So it'll be easier and better for the ladies who do want to sleep with you.

So we narrowed down some of the SCIENCE:
1. Chasing and being aligned to females who do not sexually desires you REDUCES your sexual and masculine swag
2. Being pursued by and aligning with women who desires you AMPLIFIES your sexual and masculine swag.

The more masculine and sexual swag you have the hornier and lustier the woman who desire you will be. In short you will excite them more.
 
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Yep it should. They can test ride you and feel your body. Even if your dont fvck your dance partner ones who like you will increase your sexual and masculine swag. So it'll be easier and better for the ladies who do want to sleep with you.

So we narrowed down some of the SCIENCE:
1. Chasing and being aligned to females who do not sexually desires you REDUCES your sexual and madculine swag
2. Being pursued by and aligning with women who desires you AMPLIFIES your sexual and masculine swag.

The more masculine and sexual swag you have the hornier and lustier the woman who desire you will be. In short you will excite them more.
With "being alligned" and " aligning" what do you mean?
 

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With "being alligned" and " aligning" what do you mean?
Aligned as in: Spending a bulk of your time working with or talking to. IE: dont use all your time with platonic female friends who don't think your sexually desirable. Or lezbians either. Its not good for your energy.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Aligned as in: Spending a bulk of your time working with or talking to. IE: dont use all your time with platonic female friends who don't think your sexually desirable. Or lezbians either. Its not good for your energy.
ok that's clear
 

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In terms of aerobic work can someone tell if argentine tango is tough? I mean the heart rate is high (like running or similar stuff ) o it's normal.
I ask because i go to the gym and i don't wanna do cardio work.
 

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In terms of aerobic work can someone tell if argentine tango is tough? I mean the heart rate is high (like running or similar stuff ) o it's normal.
I ask because i go to the gym and i don't wanna do cardio work.
You need to do some cardio. Cardio circulates nutrients to your muscles and organs. When im in good cardio health my erections are bigger with bulging veins.
 

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Hi, i was thinking to learn to dance tango as another way to improve my DJ's skills, because you must stay in direct contact with a woman. But what makes me hesitate it's because I think that dancing is effeminate for a man (espacialy most of the modern dance styles). In my opinion Tango is one of the few styles of dance where the man doesn't display effeminate behaviors.
Do it because you want to learn Tango.

Don’t do it because you want to touch women,
 

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In terms of aerobic work can someone tell if argentine tango is tough? I mean the heart rate is high (like running or similar stuff ) o it's normal.
I ask because i go to the gym and i don't wanna do cardio work.
It has a pretty decent cardio component to it. It’s not THAT fast, but you have “floorcraft” or dodging “traffic” while partner dancing. That alone gives some cardio workout, though it’s not like running. Maybe “power walking” if you will.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It has a pretty decent cardio component to it. It’s not THAT fast, but you have “floorcraft” or dodging “traffic” while partner dancing. That alone gives some cardio workout, though it’s not like running. Maybe “power walking” if you will.
I didn't explained good myself, I lift weights to build muscles and i'm natural. Now i'm bulking and and right now i'm building a really good amount muscle. So while i'm bulking i gotta put every risky variable out of the equation. It may seem i'm paranoid, but it's been a long road of trial and errors and experiments and i love this more than bi.tches and anything else, it's a huge passion.

My fear is overtraining, and that dancing is gonna hinder the muscle growth?
Are you out of breath after you danced? Are you tired like after a light power walking session ?
 

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You need to do some cardio. Cardio circulates nutrients to your muscles and organs. When im in good cardio health my erections are bigger with bulging veins.
Did you know you can do cardio with weights also (this needs another topic)? And it's thougher and the heart it's gonna pump harder.

And for erection you can also tray arginine at night

And by dimension how much do you mean?
 

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Did you know you can do cardio with weights also (this needs another topic)? And it's thougher and the heart it's gonna pump harder.

And by dimension how much do you mean?
Enough to notice. Actual cardio makes you more well rounded. Weights as an end all be all is not wise. Use the right tool for the job. Cardio makes me feel better and more clarity. Its different.
 

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Enough to notice. Actual cardio makes you more well rounded. Weights as an end all be all is not wise. Use the right tool for the job. Cardio makes me feel better and more clarity. Its different.
Ok and what you feel with cardio i feel with weights, plus it's my best passion.

But anyway dude you gotta tell me about dimensions
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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