When you build Confidence frm Authentic Self Esteem, you build a feeling and body belief that NO ONE can take away from you.
But if you build your Confidence on Ego, it is much more vulnerable.
Self Esteem is your Self Concept or YOUR TRUE WORTH.
Guy: (belief)"I can bench press 100 pounds for 12 times before failure."
Guy 2: "No, you can't! Liar!"
Guy: "Dude, STFU, I just did it."
The point is this:
NO ONE CAN TAKE AWAY YOUR SELF ESTEEM, no MATTER what they SAY OR DO.
But Ego based Confidence is fleeting, and irrational, and too fragile to be relied upon.
Guy: "Yeah, dude,...I can bench press 100 pounds!"
Guy 2: "Really? Cool, man. Show me."
Guy: "Uh..uh..well...not right now...Im like....kinda sore and stuff..uh but I can do it! Just not like..uh righ ..now...."
In this scenario, the firt guy is just boasting trying to self inflate his Ego , since his self esteem is so low, he is relying on hios EGO to give him some relief from that. So he makes up a lie, to make himself feel and 'look' good.
When called out on it, he realizes his body cannot cash the check his mouth just wrote.
His BODY will almost always BETRAY him. Because his BODY contain the stored formation, hence, the BELEIFS.
His BODY KNOWS he cant do it, so it acts as a feedback loop into his Sub Conscious which puts a brake to his conscious mind's decisions and actions.
He cant act on it congruently or powerfully.
So true Self Esteem allows confidence to be essentially bullet proof.
This helps you gain a Baseline Self Confidence Level.
And it is THIS baseline that you will use in all your nteractions that will challenge it.
Your baseline confidence level will never lower if it is based on Self Esteem.
But it will still fluctuate.
Why?
becasue of the uncertainty of life.
If youre a man who lives on the edge of his Comfort Zone, you will be expereincing this more frequently than others.
I know that for me, whenever I am in that zone, and still move ahead congruently, I am building Self Esteem.
Thats why for me, even the most heartbreaking emotional challenges I face, like very recently in my life now, I will understand that it is something that I must go through. It is MY 'lesson'. It is meant for me, and it is the thing I must experience as Man at that point in time. And I have to deal with it.
I have to Grow and I can only GROW if I push on the boundaries a little.
As I contunue to plow forward in that realm, I know that I am slowly building confidence in myself, and increasing my Self Esteem. Because in a a way, I am doing something I have never done before,and thus, gaining real time first hand experience as I make it.
This builds Self Esteem, and Confidence grows healthily in this manner.
We should avoid gettign feedback on our self WORTH from material objects and temporary changing forms.
Owning a Mercedes Benz is nice, but it does not mean you are a better person, or are of higher Character than another.
Drinking a 100 dollar bottle of champagne can be fun, but only for a little while, for it does NOTHING to bring you true lasting happiness and spiritual fulfillment.
Remember , some of the most 'successful' people in the world are the most miserable and Spiritually IMPOVERISHED.
Some of the wealthiest people in the world, are also some of the most INSECURE, PARANOID and scarcity mindset people you have ever met.
Validation from others on WHO we are is an example of this. An example we need to try to avoid.
Recognition from others is different than validation, as is Appreciation. Learn the difference.
And be self monitoring if your EGO starts to inflate in certain circumstances.
Leanr to build Self Esteem, by being a little bit more courageous than your set pattern of neurology allows, and try to stay just beyond the boundary of your Comfort Zone.
Make sure you are always 'checked in' and paying attention to your body, and not always 'in your head'.
Include dynamic and intense exercise and activities that allow you to reset your newulogical patterns, and let you go outside of yor comfort zone with confidence, andlet you build more and more confidence.
And look at hard times as challeneges that are temporary, and lessons for you to learn and grow from.
And remember that your Thoughts are also carried and imprinted into your BODY.
They are like imprinted memories of either good things or bad things. The more bad things you have imprinted into your body, the more you will hesitate, be apprehensive and want to stay in your safety zone.
If your body is carrying alot of bad memories, they will show up in your body, feedback loop into your subconscious and be the BASIS for your entire Beleif System,
It is the Sub Conscious mind where the BASE and FOUNDATION of yor Conscious mind operates from.
bascially, the level of success and falilure you have in your life right now is all tied up in the beliefs you have and have been carrying in your Sub Conscious mind since you were born and perhaps,even before.
If your Sub Conscious is full of a matrix of self limiting beliefs, understand tha they are the resonating frequency your are vibrating at. They are your Weakest Link.as the saying goes you are only as strong as your weakest link.
If you have deeply held set of belief that are self limiting, your body will hold you back and your rational conscious mind will rationalize that you in fact CANNOT do those things that you feel are out of your reach.
So it is important to 'dig deep' and pull out those weeds of your sub conciousl mind, and examine your beliefs. Many of which served you well when you were a child, or when you were in an abusive relationship, but now are no longer necessary and need to be erased and re imprintedwih something more functional.
