learning opportunity?

[nolimits126]

Hi all,

been lurking for a couple years but decided to make an account. I wanted to discuss something I went through that could potentially give me/and also others clarity if they faced a similar type of situation.

Back in December I banged a girl that was pursuing me and we had a great time. I told her I wanted to see her again- and she started playing games so I walked away and flipped it back into my frame. since then she texted every few weeks and decided to "keep in touch" by sending me snapchats.

Recently, I just learned through god-awful social media that the last guy she dated moved on-and they got into some sort of an argument:

so this taught me that 1) she is obviously not over her ex, 2) I was smart enough to walk away, and 3) I may have potentially kept myself from being the rebound guy.

So my question to you fellas:

once a girl is in "rebound" stage (which I'm sure she was when we hooked up), is it better to pump and dump?

I understand that women get angry when you move on but how does a DJ compete with that memory? The only solution that came to me was to pump and dump (but not ignoring her if she reaches out - just letting her initiate every single time).

I would have liked to see her again but not under these conditions.

Thoughts?

 

[CuddleJunkie]

I feel the oneitis growing in you my friend. Your gut is telling you what your only viable option is "pump and dump", but oneitis is making you search for excuses. I'm not saying that you have the One disease bro, I'm saying that your doubts are a manifestation of its beginning.

 

[nolimits126]

I feel the oneitis growing in you my friend. Your gut is telling you what your only viable option is "pump and dump", but oneitis is making you search for excuses. I'm not saying that you have the One disease bro, I'm saying that your doubts are a manifestation of its beginning.

haha! def see that. but learning is the best cure

 

[dustmuffin]

Who cares if you are the rebound guy as long as you are f ucking her?

 

[nolimits126]

Who cares if you are the rebound guy as long as you are f ucking her?

I'll be honest. I haven't dated exclusively in about a decade. I usually screw around and then call it quits so I'm not sure how things are done after that point. I feel like I can get the close easily but I want to start experimenting with more "serious" dating (aka getting to know the person on a deeper level than just banging them). not sure if that makes any sense

i can catch onto things when it comes to closing but how do certain situations come into play for long game?