Learning how to approach

[Scion]

I'm determined to learn how to get better with women. As seeing as how nothing I've previously done has worked I'm gonna re-learn everything from scratch. So I'm starting with how to approach. Another reason I'm starting with this is because today I deleted all the numbers of girls that didn't respond to me. Right now I only have 1 girl's number that may have potential (I've asked her to go out next week and she said she needed to get her work schedule this wknd, so I'll call her on the wknd). But I obviously need more numbers so hence my mission to approach.

I also want to try different things to see what works for me so if you guys have any ideas please tell me, I'll try them out.

For now I'll go with a short term goal of getting 10 numbers. Not a lot but then again I'm just starting out and a realistic goal is better.

 

[Drewskie]

There's a million threads out there on this..... although when i looked the other day, I couldn't find any. Read some FR's, there's tons of good sample approaches in them.

 

[Darth]

Well, in the last couple of months, here's what I have learned about approaching:

****1. Don't be insecure about yourself. You don't need to be fixed. You're a good person.

2. Approaching is fun and it feels good.

3. Be utterly infallible and confident in public, no matter what. Never show weakness. A touch of vulnerability here and there....OK, if it's in your personality.

4. Be open to talk with anybody. That way, approaching women becomes more natural.

****5. The only way you get ANYWHERE with girls is not by staring, not by smiling (although that can help make them aware of you and build anticipation) but by walking over, opening your mouth and saying something. Anything. Even if it's completely stupid, it will usually work. The trick is to do it.

 

[Darth]

Example: I just approached a woman tonight at an honors society dinner at college. All through dinner I was looking over in her direction, I made eye contact a couple times and smiled, she turned a little red. Then, I made 2 or 3 jokes, which, well-timed, made everyone laugh. This was good. So when everyone got up to leave, I was talking at the head of the table with another guy, until most of the people had left, and I noticed she was still hanging around across the table, took a step or two towards our direction, and stopped. I glanced to the side toward her as I was talking with the other guy and took a small step back, just to make her aware I was trying to get away and meet her.

So then another guy jumps in and starts talking to my guy, leaving me free to come around the table and walk towards her. Now of course she is turned away from me, pretending she wasn't noticing me. So I walk up beside her, and talk to someone directly in front, and then I just start to turn in her direction, and she is already facing me full to the front, expecting me to say something.

This alone tells me this: If you establish yourself as a cool person and you are close to a girl, she would almost take it as an insult if you DIDN'T say something.

So I opened. Now, I had actually been thinking about this during dinner, so I had time. If I hadn't, I still would've said something (more generic).

"So, are you really from Germany?" I said.

And she just opened up. 5 minute conversation easy. I ended it, not her.

I ended it because I figured out that she was about 26 years . Me being 19, I knew there was a slim chance of it working. But MAN, it felt great to just go for it like that.

You know what has helped me to approach more than anything else the last couple of months?

Eliminating my personal INSECURITY.

 

[F!DELITY]

OP, take a leaf out of Darth's book.

Forget about anxiety and take ACTION!!! Its the only way.

ACTION ACTION ACTION!

 

[xdreamz]

i wouldn't focus that much on getting this and that amount of numbers. i would focus more on making each number a good number.