"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Learning from romance novels?

treefingers

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Has anyone ever read a romance novel? If you have what was the male love interest character like? Caring and sensitive or jerkish? Seeing as women wet their panties reading this stuff it seems there could be something to learn from it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Nighthawk

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It's a great question. My ex was ironically-but-seriously into Mills & Bon romance novels so I know quite a lot about them and they are an excellent window into what women, even innocen-looking old biddies, find arousing.

First, the heroes of these novels are totally un-AFC. Usually they seem like COMPLETE JERKS to the heroine - they blow HOT & COLD, and have no compulsion about CRITICICIZING, TEASING and generally being VERY VERY ARROGANT. They also have SOCIAL STATUS and are GREAT IN BED.

Eventually it transpires there was a huge misunderstanding and all his bastardish behaviour somehow makes sense and she gets marred and pregnant. But the women don't read these novels for the happy endings, they read it because this type of man TURNS THEM ON. It's porn to them.

Now you'll have to excuse me, there's this HB9 who just insisted on coming over and getting laid. Guess how I acted to get this result?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by AsianPlayboy
Step AWAY from the romance novels.

I repeat, this is your last warning, step AWAY from the romance novels.
How come?
 
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