"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Learning charisma indirectly

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After years of experience, studying here in the forum (and others too), practicing what I've learned, and gaining new experiences, I've come to understand that many experienced individuals, or "naturally fascinating" people, possess skills that intersect with the materials and subjects you can study in acting.

I've always been interested in this, and I believe it can enhance your overall social life.

Instead of solely focusing on studying seduction, acting can provide you with skills in listening, speaking, responding, and being understood. You will explore aspects such as voice modulation, vocabulary, expression, gestures, pauses, rhythm, singing, dancing, storytelling, and more.

These elements can help build charisma because acting is also a fun activity!

Who here would think that acting can develop skills beneficial for social interactions and relationships with women in general?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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To add on charisma:

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Look like this is "sexual" charisma to me.

This is actually a mode I can enter very easly.
What about you?
 

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After years of experience, studying here in the forum (and others too), practicing what I've learned, and gaining new experiences, I've come to understand that many experienced individuals, or "naturally fascinating" people, possess skills that intersect with the materials and subjects you can study in acting.

I've always been interested in this, and I believe it can enhance your overall social life.

Instead of solely focusing on studying seduction, acting can provide you with skills in listening, speaking, responding, and being understood. You will explore aspects such as voice modulation, vocabulary, expression, gestures, pauses, rhythm, singing, dancing, storytelling, and more.

These elements can help build charisma because acting is also a fun activity!

Who here would think that acting can develop skills beneficial for social interactions and relationships with women in general?
Any kind of social interaction is effectively experience or practice that will improve your social skills. I don't think acting is any more effective than getting a job that requires interacting with the general public
 

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yes, learning a skill like the ones you describe is valuable.

one of the biggest components of charisma is self respect and how you feel yourself. if your good, what comes out is usually good. if your unhappy, pissed off, jealous, don't feel good or scared then interacting with you is less desirable.

funny how that by priority self can become better for others.

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#1 get yourself feeling good. several posters know how. the most recent one i noticed was that cranky old guy @BackInTheGame78 .

#2 get yourself doing stuff you love.

#3 sure, learn acting or singing or dancing or anything that give you visibility and contact.

#4 you will have it.
 

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Things like taking speech classes, taking up a cause and passing out stuff to strangers and chatting them up, chatting up your local Starbucks or local coffee shop baristas if you're a regular there, chatting up Attractive employees at Retail stores and joking around with them, having a coffee shop buddy to chat with and vent, having a Pastor or priest to talk to about spiritual matters etc.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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As men, if we truly want to commit to something and achieve great success, we must inevitably exclude emotions and focus on logic!


I often wonder how some people can confuse charisma with the insecurity of someone who simply speaks loudly in a room, seeking attention. I don’t understand how something that is essentially a need to assert oneself in order to cover up inner weaknesses can be mistaken for charisma.


So, thinking about it, I realized that there are indeed two types of charisma: a secure one and an insecure one.


Insecure charisma: This is the kind of charisma that involves gossiping, speaking badly of others, projecting one’s own insecurities, raising the voice to appear dominant, being arrogant, jittery, and loud to draw attention.


Secure charisma: This is the kind of charisma that helps others grow, speaks in a normal, calm, and thoughtful voice. It doesn’t need to shout or be the center of attention. It’s "loud" only when singing, but never when whining or speaking ill of others.
 
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