Learning about the game
Female nature:
1# Watching what they do, rather than listening what they say
Hi everyone!
I'm new here!
The post will be a bit long, but I assure you that you too have been through this... and I would like to remove a doubt that I have always had regarding women. I've never understood them on this point...
I'll give you clearer examples:
1) I start from my mother and my father... every now and then, my mother might receive something from my father... For example, the other day my father took her out for breakfast and bought her some croissants.
She sent the photo to their group where there are 4 couples who have been friends since childhood, saying "He did this thinking he would make amends".
So she wasn't grateful, but rather commented on what my father did in this way.
Having said that, the same evening or the next day, he posted happy things on his account and on his WhatsApp status of how they were hugged and lots of little hearts.
There are others too but that was just to give an example.
2) Another couple of friends, both married, these are young people aged around 35.
He has a hockey team that he coaches and follows, so he comes home late at night, after work, and after training....
She makes him feel it every time...
In fact we were at a dinner, or rather, it almost always happens, that as soon as someone starts talking about hockey, she immediately brings up the subject... "Eh, you always come home late at night... if it continues like this, I really want to see where we end up, look".. all dissatisfied.. or other times she said "Don't come home late tonight, as usual..."
The next day he posts a photo of the two of them smiling and looking at each other, or we learn that they went for a romantic dinner together.
(Or that she perhaps performed some sexual act for him.)
3) My sister and my brother-in-law, both married, are in their 50s, have 3 children, and they always argue a lot and above all she really takes him back a lot, and he gets angry and goes into a rage. Then you see them the next day together passionately having ice cream, and kisses...
4) Another couple I know (this is extreme example) he's had a really, really turbulent relationship, I mean, they're still together, but at what cost?
In practice, every now and then, she fell out of love because he didn't show that he loved her (according to her), maybe she went to do things to make him jealous, such as obtaining validation from other men, changing his plans, or simply other things that make him jealous, even things leading to betrayal. Now, could women do this, just to see a reaction from their man?
I have never understood if this is a toxic thing, or if all women do it, and why they do it, at that particular moment, if at other times they are fine.
Now, I only gave 4 examples, because I could really go on and on but the crux of the question is this: why do women behave this way?
Offending their men in front of other people, friends or strangers, when their men could give them something, or simply make simple positive gestures, or get angry with them because they come back late when they know very well about their commitments... and then... maybe within hours, or simply the next day, maybe make them a special dish that they like so much, be sweet, go for a dinner together, or an ending that includes passionate sex?
The vast majority of women treat men in their relationships this way.
First of all, I would like to understand if it is normal behavior, what it depends on, and if we men should worry about it and if it should be considered a lack of respect, how we should behave about it.
Furthermore, I have noticed that this behavior does not happen in fresh relationships, but especially after 5/10 years, or in any case after marriage and children, or in a couple that has been together for a long time.
Do women simply feel like using these terms with their partners because they think they will get away with it somehow? Really it's something I've always wanted to understand and explain, and I think I've ended up in the right place to understand it, there are many men here who have been through relationships and marriages, have children and might understand what I mean.
Female nature:
1# Watching what they do, rather than listening what they say
Hi everyone!
I'm new here!
The post will be a bit long, but I assure you that you too have been through this... and I would like to remove a doubt that I have always had regarding women. I've never understood them on this point...
I'll give you clearer examples:
1) I start from my mother and my father... every now and then, my mother might receive something from my father... For example, the other day my father took her out for breakfast and bought her some croissants.
She sent the photo to their group where there are 4 couples who have been friends since childhood, saying "He did this thinking he would make amends".
So she wasn't grateful, but rather commented on what my father did in this way.
Having said that, the same evening or the next day, he posted happy things on his account and on his WhatsApp status of how they were hugged and lots of little hearts.
There are others too but that was just to give an example.
2) Another couple of friends, both married, these are young people aged around 35.
He has a hockey team that he coaches and follows, so he comes home late at night, after work, and after training....
She makes him feel it every time...
In fact we were at a dinner, or rather, it almost always happens, that as soon as someone starts talking about hockey, she immediately brings up the subject... "Eh, you always come home late at night... if it continues like this, I really want to see where we end up, look".. all dissatisfied.. or other times she said "Don't come home late tonight, as usual..."
The next day he posts a photo of the two of them smiling and looking at each other, or we learn that they went for a romantic dinner together.
(Or that she perhaps performed some sexual act for him.)
3) My sister and my brother-in-law, both married, are in their 50s, have 3 children, and they always argue a lot and above all she really takes him back a lot, and he gets angry and goes into a rage. Then you see them the next day together passionately having ice cream, and kisses...
4) Another couple I know (this is extreme example) he's had a really, really turbulent relationship, I mean, they're still together, but at what cost?
In practice, every now and then, she fell out of love because he didn't show that he loved her (according to her), maybe she went to do things to make him jealous, such as obtaining validation from other men, changing his plans, or simply other things that make him jealous, even things leading to betrayal. Now, could women do this, just to see a reaction from their man?
I have never understood if this is a toxic thing, or if all women do it, and why they do it, at that particular moment, if at other times they are fine.
Now, I only gave 4 examples, because I could really go on and on but the crux of the question is this: why do women behave this way?
Offending their men in front of other people, friends or strangers, when their men could give them something, or simply make simple positive gestures, or get angry with them because they come back late when they know very well about their commitments... and then... maybe within hours, or simply the next day, maybe make them a special dish that they like so much, be sweet, go for a dinner together, or an ending that includes passionate sex?
The vast majority of women treat men in their relationships this way.
First of all, I would like to understand if it is normal behavior, what it depends on, and if we men should worry about it and if it should be considered a lack of respect, how we should behave about it.
Furthermore, I have noticed that this behavior does not happen in fresh relationships, but especially after 5/10 years, or in any case after marriage and children, or in a couple that has been together for a long time.
Do women simply feel like using these terms with their partners because they think they will get away with it somehow? Really it's something I've always wanted to understand and explain, and I think I've ended up in the right place to understand it, there are many men here who have been through relationships and marriages, have children and might understand what I mean.