Learned lessons that we tend to forget

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Hello everyone, I'm a well known poster of this board whos desktop computer decided to suddenly die so lost access to main account and old email address from 2012...you can guess who I am from my nick name I believe.

Now I've been pretty active with the ladies in the last months and despite my experience and focus I made so many mistakes that I'm almost ashamed about it.

Since most new users are not boomers like me or @Mike32ct there is a good chance the attention span here matches the one of gold fishes, I'll go by a list.

1)Cut down the compliments no matter how hot she is.

When you compliment a girl there are two mistakes, the first one is that she didnt earn anything but the critical one is the second which is signaling her that you're not used to deal with girls of her attractiveness...this is a fatal mistake cause no woman ever wants to be the top option of a man, she wants a man that other women (hot women) want.

I had hotties beyond your wildest dreams in my 20s despite they were way above my league only cause I often times treated them with disrespect and mockery...other times I failed to finalized with hotties despite it seemed everything was in place and deep kisses happened already cause I stupidly told them how attractive they were and how was it even possible that other men didnt try their best to get them.

This mistake costed me many opportunities both in real life and online.

2)Work on your value and make it count

We are attracted to their beauty, femininity and fertility...basically any feature you like in a women is connected to those.

They are attracted to success, not looks alone, not money alone, not status alone but overall success.

It doesnt matter if you achieve it legally and morally or if you are a shark, the only thing that matters is if you are winning or not.

Our focus shouldnt be on working on women, it should be on working on our position in the social hierarchy...they dont do conscious decisions to date successful guys as much as we dont consciously decide to get hard for your hot women.

Being good looking, in shape and well dress is a form of success as well...it means you put some work to start from your genetic base and pump your score from there.

If you are winning you can afford much more, women are fine with arrogant, egoistic, lazy, neglecting men as long as they are winning.

3)Cut your losses and be ruthless when it comes of taking decisions

If something doesnt work, annoys you or make you uncomfortable just cut it...you own S. to no one and just like women you own no explanation for your decisions.

Sure there is a person behind the screen or on the other side of the table but if you aint getting anything out of it or you have reasons to believe it's leading nowhere or you simply dont enjoy the interaction just leave...do it cause they have no problem to do it themselves, even toward their own former husband or work associates.

4)Relaxing is not part of dealing with women

Thats a non-stop evaluation process that can be a silent observation or a direct job interview, if you are not fine keeping control of yourself and your interactions take a break, hit escorts or simply accept the fact that it wont last beyond a certain point.
If you find yourself exhausted by being under pressure all the time, jut take a break and stay by yourself, its normal and healthy for our mental health.
There are no such things as "oh cool, I performed well so I can relax, let my emotion show and no longer pay attention to what I say/do".

 

[member160292]

#2 is the biggest factor in my current success with women. There's an old saying - Build your Kingdom and they will Cvm

I'm still incorporating #3, early on I would stick around on the first date even though I got catfish'd. I had a first date couple of weeks ago, she was too anxious/loud and wanted an outside seat because of COVID. I said see you later less than 5 minutes of meeting.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

#2 is the biggest factor in my current success with women. There's an old saying - Build your Kingdom and they will Cvm

I'm still incorporating #3, early on I would stick around on the first date even though I got catfish'd. I had a first date couple of weeks ago, she was too anxious/loud and wanted an outside seat because of COVID. I said see you later less than 5 minutes of meeting.

Same here, old stupid me back in my teens would have stay just to "be nice" and let her save face even when dates were ugly or it was obvious they had no attraction.

No girl ever considered to do it, they are ruthless when they place their bets or invest their time and we should learn from them.

 

[eli77]

Never ever once was on a date in junior high and had one girl with a crush on me one girlfriend in school one girlfriend in high school my lack of experience reading a female who had crushes on me really came back to bite me in the butt. This is awesome post too bad a lot of high school kids won't see it they'll marry the first piece of bath that come that way I was total kind of a introvert in high school introverted but the plus of going to school that was overcrowded is that you have plenty of hot chicks now you have guys and girls wearing uniforms thanking god they're not going to boarding schools or all boys catholic school.