NinjaMaster
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Some of you dudes seriously need to learn to ride the brakes when it comes to chicks who seemingly have "high interest" and or chicks whom seem like possible flakes or have flaked once before.
If you get high interest and set up a meet and the chick shows with no problems. Fine.
*But that doesn't mean all chicks or even other seemigly "high interest" chicks will trip over themselves at all times to run to meet you if a conversation is based off of a meet alone with no other quick off topic chat to ease their own thoughts which they won't state.
Regardless if a chick seems like she has high interest (in meeting) she could be playing along in "agreement" just to make you jump through hoops to play you and it might just be your own fault if that's ALL your goal is seeming like to her.
With every chick I've talked to or dated I've never pushed hard for a meet or talked about a meet ONLY in conversation. You have to be well rounded and sprinkle different topics to lower whatever possible road block may be in their mind.
True you set up a meet. But you want to "mix" other things in the conversation to put her at ease as if you aren't some desperate possible stage 5 clinger or you have no life.
Nothing needs to be said, no value needs to be shown, but it's done by your actions.
You make light hearted small talk and set up a meet. If she can't show? Don't sweat it. Make quick small talk and don't ask them out again.
If you want to contact them later on? Just contact them to make small talk and see how they're doing. Don't mention meeting up. Let them suggest it.
You don't want to be "THAT" guy who tries to force people whom don't know you or may even know you to bend to your will. ESPECIALLY chicks whom know dudes who want to hang out aren't just looking for a "hang out" but possible sex.
If you sense hesitation. Pull back and change the subject quick but leave the option to meet open. Let them decide.
It's just like that with friends, relatives, etc. You know. Like the dude who you may be friends with who pushes to go out and you are just being cool going along with it: "Oh sounds great!" (as you may already have other plans or just not feel like it at the moment and want them off your back) but they keep pushing and asking. They start to annoy you without you saying anything as you don't want to bother saying "No" or "Maybe another time" which results in a possible argument out of nothing and them pushing more and seeming like they don't realize nor care you may have a life and things to do.
It's even worse with chicks as they know dudes want some. They'll passively play along at times and will reverse it on you flaking etc. as it's easier for them then getting into an argument with a pushy dude.
Just ride the brakes at all times. Meaning don't just specifically focus on a meet as the sole purpose of a conversation no matter how high interest they may seem. (Some fake it just to see if you are in "need" of meeting them"). BS quick about other topics while suggesting a meet to ease them to not see you as that pushy "creepy, desperate dude with no possible life".
If not. In the end it becomes your own fault that more chicks will end up flaking on you and playing you for being the pushy, controlling, idiot.
If you get high interest and set up a meet and the chick shows with no problems. Fine.
*But that doesn't mean all chicks or even other seemigly "high interest" chicks will trip over themselves at all times to run to meet you if a conversation is based off of a meet alone with no other quick off topic chat to ease their own thoughts which they won't state.
Regardless if a chick seems like she has high interest (in meeting) she could be playing along in "agreement" just to make you jump through hoops to play you and it might just be your own fault if that's ALL your goal is seeming like to her.
With every chick I've talked to or dated I've never pushed hard for a meet or talked about a meet ONLY in conversation. You have to be well rounded and sprinkle different topics to lower whatever possible road block may be in their mind.
True you set up a meet. But you want to "mix" other things in the conversation to put her at ease as if you aren't some desperate possible stage 5 clinger or you have no life.
Nothing needs to be said, no value needs to be shown, but it's done by your actions.
You make light hearted small talk and set up a meet. If she can't show? Don't sweat it. Make quick small talk and don't ask them out again.
If you want to contact them later on? Just contact them to make small talk and see how they're doing. Don't mention meeting up. Let them suggest it.
You don't want to be "THAT" guy who tries to force people whom don't know you or may even know you to bend to your will. ESPECIALLY chicks whom know dudes who want to hang out aren't just looking for a "hang out" but possible sex.
If you sense hesitation. Pull back and change the subject quick but leave the option to meet open. Let them decide.
It's just like that with friends, relatives, etc. You know. Like the dude who you may be friends with who pushes to go out and you are just being cool going along with it: "Oh sounds great!" (as you may already have other plans or just not feel like it at the moment and want them off your back) but they keep pushing and asking. They start to annoy you without you saying anything as you don't want to bother saying "No" or "Maybe another time" which results in a possible argument out of nothing and them pushing more and seeming like they don't realize nor care you may have a life and things to do.
It's even worse with chicks as they know dudes want some. They'll passively play along at times and will reverse it on you flaking etc. as it's easier for them then getting into an argument with a pushy dude.
Just ride the brakes at all times. Meaning don't just specifically focus on a meet as the sole purpose of a conversation no matter how high interest they may seem. (Some fake it just to see if you are in "need" of meeting them"). BS quick about other topics while suggesting a meet to ease them to not see you as that pushy "creepy, desperate dude with no possible life".
If not. In the end it becomes your own fault that more chicks will end up flaking on you and playing you for being the pushy, controlling, idiot.
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