"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Learn how to read people

usedtolurk

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To be a good DJ you will have to read girls well. In order to read girls well, we have to learn how to read everyone well. Being a good people reader you can figure out their motives, personality, and character before it’s too late. Not to mention coming up with good conversation pieces.

Share your people reading tips.

These are some things I look for in people
~Colors of their shoes and watch plates. This can reveal their favorite colors. I’ve observed that people often like things that are their favorite color. This is a no-brainer, but oftentimes we overlook details. Their favorite color can be a clue to their personality also. People who prefer colors such as blue and gray are usually cool-headed and logical. People who like orange and red are always up for adventure. Purple lovers are creative.
~Their eye blinks. Fast blinking or no-blinking is significant. Fast blinking is usually associated with nervousness and deception. No blinking is associated with terror or interest.
-Their usage of verbs, nouns, and adjectives.
-What they do with their hands. If someone pretends they are happy by smiling and if their hands are balled up in fists they really aren’t happy.
-How fast, slow, loud, or soft they speak.
-Their key chains, pictures/logos on shirts, bumper stickers. These can be good conversational pieces because they tell a person’s hobby, where their from, political party, values, or even occupation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I never noticed the shoes. My fav color is blue, and my shoes are blue and grey. what about thoose whtie shoes that chicks always wear?
 

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I notice that I love black shoes, I love brunettes (preferably black hair), and I have this dark side to me. Interesting.
 

Maeisgood

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Reading people is difficult because people wear masks, especially girls. They want to appear cute and happy but often are not. Some will flirt with you and have no interest at all. I've heard reading the signs girls give is unimportant. You should assume they like you. You should show some interest in them, but not let them know how much and not pay too much attention to them.

How can you sort the real emotions from the fake ones? Or does it matter?
 

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The most important thing to read is non verbal language...

If someone tells you you are nice but keep her arms crossed then she feels uncomfortable with you...

I'll make another post, I think, stating meanings...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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