"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Learn from bad experience

arlanda

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Yesterday, I was going through some of SMS messages I had stored in my cellphone.

I met this chick online (picture below). This was 10 months ago, so I was a total newbie to all of this. Powered with David DeAngelo's C&F I created a huge attraction in her. She was damn sharp, intelligent and very playful. I mean I've been hardcore C&F and she could keep it up! She's 165cm, 49kg, brunnete just the way I like it ;)

Here's the pic (that's her brother) http://img384.imageshack.us/my.php?image=f6593474540983bfb8ba661dfb423a.png

Basically, I blew it by not moving forward fast enough. Actually, I wanted to but she fed me with "I'm shy" and other BS and I didn't call her on it. I texted her a lot, and I mean a lot. I wanted to *****slap myself when I was reading all those texts yesterday :rolleyes: Jesus, I've even sent her a poem!!!

What's the point of writing all this? Well, back then I couldn't understand why she (her own words) "changed her mind" about me. She was clearly attracted and maybe even in love with me (she hinted on this).

Now, being A LOT more experienced I can identify each and every mistake I made (being needy, talking to her too much, using C&F all the time = no connection, and not being able to call her on her BS). This was my first (real) and last ONEITIS in my life!

I was so mad at her only to realize I am the one who ****ed up. (OK, she could have been more honest with me and tell me to **** off - not only hinting on this but hey, that's the way girls are and now I know)

I am quite thankful for the experience because it changed me to better. Back then my confidence was low but now I know I can attract hot women - something I thought was not possible just a few months ago. I no longer focus on one woman only, I no longer rely on online dating, I am working on MY life and I no longer NEED women.

The point is, use your bad experiences and learn from it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It always good to learn from your mistakes. It also takes quite a realization to figure what the mistakes actually were when it comes to dating.
 

Jariel

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Bad experiences are the greatest teachers life has to offer!

I kept a lot of emails I've sent to women in the past or emails to friends about these women. Every so often I read through them again, and they make me cringe so much.

Like you, I passed the blame onto these women, but on reflection it is no surprise they wanted to dump me. Being the spineless, pathetic, manipulative "nice guy" I used to be, I really deserved it too!
 
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