"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Leaning/shredding

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Now that my workout routine has been curtailed for a week, I'm starting to get serious about having a Plan B for the medium/long term. See my other thread about home gyms.

The flip side: what about leaning-up aka shredding? Doesn't that involve less exercise combined with a restrictive diet? Seems like now would be the time to try that.

Or do I have that wrong?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Not to my knowledge, you still want to preserve (as much as) your muscles as you can while you're shredding which means resistance training and high protein intake. You will still lose muscles because you can't have it both ways at the same time, but you will lose as little as possible if you do those two things.

I can recommend fasting. 16/8 works great for this.
 

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Not to my knowledge, you still want to preserve (as much as) your muscles as you can while you're shredding which means resistance training and high protein intake. You will still lose muscles because you can't have it both ways at the same time, but you will lose as little as possible if you do those two things.

I can recommend fasting. 16/8 works great for this.
Yeah, I've been doing the 16/8 fasting for awhile (I eat from 1-9pm). I plateaued a bit after the first couple of months, but that also correlated with the holidays. I'm also concerned that if I push it too hard I risk weakening my immune system. So if I'm really, really hungry by mid morning I will have something small.

But good info, makes sense.
 

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Personally keto and basic cardio keeps me lean af. I use cyclical keto to replenish glycogen(necessary for gains since I lift) for 2 days a week but otherwise keep my intake to super low carb. Your body will use the most abundant macro for energy. When you make the most abundant macro fat your body adapts to use ketones rather than glucose. Low insulin levels means your body uses fat stores, high insulin levels means your body stores fat. Since eating fats spike your insulin the least your body is in the fat burning phase much more often than in fat storing phase. As a result you always feel hungry, even if you hit your calorie target(which is hard enough without carbs) because your body is always burning fat.

I've tried the intermittent fasting but I find it's really hard on my digestive system to try and pack my calorie target into a smaller window. I'm much more comfortable eating whenever and consistently eating high healthy fat, low carb food. Basically meat and veggies.
 

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Fasting puts alot of stress to the body, a positive stress that puts the cells in regenerating/repair mode. I don't think it will weaken your immune system as long as you eat quality food when you eat. I've noticed those hunger feelings go away as the body adapts after a while for me personally.
Just take some omega 3 and get some sun exposure for vitamin D, focus on quality food and you'll be good.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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