Leagues only exist in your own mind

[Belmar2009]

We have all heard, "Ah, she is out of my league comments,"

I was really attracted to this girl, but she was out of my league.

Don't even bother going after this girl, you are not nearly as good-looking.

Etc, Etc. We have all heard these comments going around in our own heads and elsewhere.

HOWEVER, Like me, I am sure you have seen the following:


1.) Short men who were just average looking with an attractive woman on their arm.

2.) Overweight men with an attractive woman

3.) Men who are bald or balding with an attractive woman on their arm

4.) Men with very average facial aesthetics with an attractive woman on their arm


Now, granted LOOKS STILL DO MATTER and you very, very rarely see a downright UGLY man with an attractive woman, but YOU DO SEE EVERYDAY, men who are VERY, VERY AVERAGE in the looks department with cute/hot girls on their arm.

 

[Nygard]

I was really attracted to this girl, but she was out of my league.

Let her come up with a reason why she won't have sex with you, don't do it for her.

 

[808]

Well put.

Leagues only exist in your head, if you choose to let them exist.

To me, I make my own leagues:
Those who CAN have me, and those who CAN'T.

Remember, YOU are the one who chooses.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

I'll second that...

A lot of women have TYPES, but not LEAGUES. They like skinny, or thugged-out, or fat, or clean-cut guys or WHATEVER.

As long as you're not the exact opposite of her 'type' then you've got a fair shot at her. My current relationship is with a woman who always dated much older, bigger (like stronger) men. Then I came along... a guy only 3 months older than her, and 6' 150 lbs. The difference between me and the other guys my size is that I demonstrate dominance without having the physical presence of a huge guy.

 

[Lexington]

To get with a super attractive girl, you don't have to be equally attractive. You only have to attractive ENOUGH. It's unlikely that an obese, disheveled and balding old man is going to get with a super model. But is possible for an average looking guy if he is successful, well-groomed, well-dressed and has a great personality.