"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ldr and spinning plates..

Jair213

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Its that time to spin plates I think ldr is loosing interest.

Just went to the mall and got 4 numbers I feel kinda guilty though ill just see
were the ldr ends up and spin plates at the same time. :(
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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El Suave

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Don't feel guilty, man. Have some options, she's doing the same thing if she started losing interest. Mine is doing the same thing, and I'm doing what you're doing. I hate not getting a return on investment and with a ldr all you get is to talk to her. Your needs are not getting met. Just hers.
 

GotED?

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Never do LDR.

I used to do it and seek it unconsciously in my 20's.

I finally realized LDR is just for people who really have a fear of intimacy. LDR allows one to fictitiously perceiving a deeper relationship than it actually is (especially if it was created solely online and fell in love without meeting first). The absence of the other partner makes a real human connection almost impossible over time.

I finally got out of my fairyland in LDRs and faced up to the real hard true work and game in having day to day interaction with a woman in person. LDR is a safe way for those who sub-consciously want to keep the other person at a distance to prevent getting hurt- imagining wonderful things which never really existed in the end.

The time you DO spend together are just a rollercoaster emotional drama ride - once every so long you see each other, it is like an adrenaline rush for junkies. This is not a real relationship - as you never get to know the person on a deeper level consistenly over time. It comes down to never getting past the infatuation stage because as soon as you almost get over it, she/he is gone away for a long time. It is a viciously pointless cycle of time wasting being sucked into lust and nothing else more meaningful.

Exodus
 

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GotED? said:
Never do LDR.

I used to do it and seek it unconsciously in my 20's.

I finally realized LDR is just for people who really have a fear of intimacy. LDR allows one to fictitiously perceiving a deeper relationship than it actually is (especially if it was created solely online and fell in love without meeting first). The absence of the other partner makes a real human connection almost impossible over time.

I finally got out of my fairyland in LDRs and faced up to the real hard true work and game in having day to day interaction with a woman in person. LDR is a safe way for those who sub-consciously want to keep the other person at a distance to prevent getting hurt- imagining wonderful things which never really existed in the end.

Exodus


yes.
 
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