Lazy dates problem

[sosousage]

A lot of chicks I am about to date (we exchange numbers and dirt talk) live in city nearby (1h - 1h30min by bus+train).

And theres always problem, they dont want to come to my city, and I dont want to go to theirs.

I would go there, no problem, i am not stubborn, but always when I go, chicks think of some stupid meeting place near their living area that is so bad that it influences the date negatively (place matters).

Last time I was in their city for the date she took me somewhere far from public, from people, it was 22 pm, dark, we were going into numerous dark alleys, or going next to main street with a lot of cars passing by. i was stressed and focused not on date but on how to not get killed.

they wont think of place by the sea, of park, beach, or of anything that is calm and looks ok, but not completely out of people and shady (like dark alleys are)

I know couple good places in my city for good date.


So what should I do? I said to one that its a man role to pick first date's place, but she was stubborn, and said no. so we told byebye to each other.


its a lose-lose problem. either go into unknown area and let her pick ****ty place or not meet at all.

 

[Roober]

If she isn't worried about being mugged or killed, why are you?
If you don't want to go, why did you?
Is it impossible to google spots near her and say "This looks like a cool spot, meet me at XXXX at 7pm"?

She needs to be willing to meet in both locations. Yours and hers. If she is not, that usually says enough (for me anyway)

Sounds like a classic case of placing the pvssy on a pedestal and compromising your standards.

 

[sosousage]

If she isn't worried about being mugged or killed, why are you?
If you don't want to go, why did you?
Is it impossible to google spots near her and say "This looks like a cool spot, meet me at XXXX at 7pm"?

She needs to be willing to meet in both locations. Yours and hers. If she is not, that usually says enough (for me anyway)

Sounds like a classic case of placing the pvssy on a pedestal and compromising your standards.

lets be honest, women cant set proper dates. you have to think of the details like place as a man. i take them always to public place, and they have no reason to worry at all.

I am talking about FIRST dates. women think on first date its man role to travel if such travel is needed.

googling spots nearby could be good idea but it make us both not know the area.

 

[wifehunter]

 

[Murk]

Imagine a girl going on a date with a guy who was scared to be out at night time. Really filling her with confidence and making her feel safe there.

You need to work on yourself, you shouldn't be afraid to go anywhere, that's childish mentality.

 

[Von]

lets be honest, women cant set proper dates. you have to think of the details like place as a man. i take them always to public place, and they have no reason to worry at all.

I am talking about FIRST dates. women think on first date its man role to travel if such travel is needed.

googling spots nearby could be good idea but it make us both not know the area.

Sounds you have a lack of manhood and confidence.

First dates are always about WHAT I WANT.

THEY COME TO ME.

If she push frame... I just ignore and invite another girl instead.

If she challenges you 1) she's low interest 2) you didn't lead 3) test to see if she owns you.

Sounds, you let yourself be lead by girls... it's normal you get bored... they decide for you and they drag you along.

If she's going to dark places etc... it means she's looking for adventure and to test the type of guy you are. I bet you could have had some dark sex alley if you had been man enough to take them.

You must be a teenager... when I was AFC and weak.. A few of my teenage date were exactly like you've describe.

Introspecting it.. It showed me the girls where looking for an adventure but also an alpha male who can take them for a ride.

You need to improve your back-bone, confidence, and leading abilities.

You pick on what they say, than call the shoot from there.

You get the number that's a good sign but it's not enough.

Hi how I pick girls phone (OLD or live action):

Me: Hi, my name is.... What your's
Her: some replies
Me: "talk about something she wear, do, posted on her pic".. Which leads to talk about her taste.
Her: Yes I am crazy about this or that
Me: Oh sounds like an invitation to a date, here my number. What's yours ?
Her: give number

Than you call the shoot: " it's Sosuage, I am going at this place, this time, this hour, join me"

You have to be direct but non-confrontational. You have to be inviting

You have to lead. Leading is inviting

She will only give back if you lead and connect with her.

If you want to grow "rapport", I've found that picking up the last words they said and turn in towards them in form of question or points. It will make them talk more and develop.

You speak 20%. They speak 80%.
You act, they speak

 

[sosousage]

Imagine a girl going on a date with a guy who was scared to be out at night time. Really filling her with confidence and making her feel safe there.

You need to work on yourself, you shouldn't be afraid to go anywhere, that's childish mentality.

actually internet dates are full of psychopaths who want to stab their knife in you so sometimes fear is rationalised

@Von

solid advice here. I generally dont have problems with talking, but which subject would you choose if she mentioned three? the last one?

 

[Murk]

actually internet dates are full of psychopaths who want to stab their knife in you so sometimes fear is rationalised

@Von

solid advice here. I generally dont have problems with talking, but which subject would you choose if she mentioned three? the last one?

Actually no, most people don’t want to stab and kill randoms, it’s literally unheard of. People get shot and stabbed for a reason most of the time.

You live your life in fear mate see how happy that makes you.

 

[sosousage]

Actually no, most people don’t want to stab and kill randoms, it’s literally unheard of. People get shot and stabbed for a reason most of the time.

You live your life in fear mate see how happy that makes you.

there are plenty articles on the net of murderers stabbing their internet dates