"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lay with her after sex, or shower and see ya?

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Mistic said:
You would love as much as you would hate me, and be hopelessly addicted and forever trying to figure me out. I pray you never meet me either. But if we do, I will give you the best sexual experience you have ever had. That I guarentee :D
Because that's what every woman wants...a man who cums and runs. You are such a Don Juan.

*swoon*
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Gotta do what you feel like doing in this situation.

If it is showering and leaving do that, if it is cuddling do that.

Here is a little common sense tip for you though.

After a particularly great sexual performance by a girl subtley enforce that she will always get rewarded for this by getting her cuddling that she wants but whenever the sex is more or less routine shower and leave.

After all if you cuddle with her every time it will get old but if you use this sparingly and wisely she will be trained to put on a better sexual performance each time that she really wants to be cuddled.

If she is a chick that is particularly needy yearning for love you can really train her to be a nympho for you using this method of reward.
 

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Mistic said:
You would love as much as you would hate me, and be hopelessly addicted and forever trying to figure me out. I pray you never meet me either. But if we do, I will give you the best sexual experience you have ever had. That I guarentee :D
Blah blah blah

Its good to be anonymous isnt it Mistic? Lucky you will never have to prove that lol :moon:
 

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AlanB said:
Really? I don't think I buy into that.

I remember once I went straight to the pub on a Sunday lunchtime after a one night stand and a mate actually made the comment that I 'stunk of sex'. He was right; too overpowering. I think that pheremones stuff only works in much subtler doses and I think that the effect is probably overshadowed by the increase in confidence/endorphin rush from having just had sex.
Well, if it's stinky pvssy, shower, otherwise try wait. Also, it has to have been really great sex. It's the smell and the whole vibe that they pick up on. For you non believers, I had the female lawyer who is against me in my njury suite, sending me fvck vibes while she was interrogating me in the office, because I had insane sex the night before and didn't shower. The female court reporter was also sending me IOI's.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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L777 said:
Well there's no need to be a d.ick about it, i.e. just leave pretty much straight away.

If it was a girl I was interested in having sex with again, I'd stay and cuddle and stuff, if it was an obvious ONS, I'd either stay and talk for a bit, just have a laugh and stuff, and then leave after a while, or if she's at my place just sleep there with her.

Just leaving without a word is really low, IMO. It may make you feel like a 'pimp' or whatever, but in reality, its a sh.itty thing to do.
Not leaving without a word, but leaving without letting her get into that "now were in love" stage.

But more importantly, does leaving rather than staying increase or decrease your chances of having sex again and again with her.

You see, this might be another AFC assumption, like buying flowers, that you have to be with her after sex.
 

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Not leaving without a word, but leaving without letting her get into that "now were in love" stage.

But more importantly, does leaving rather than staying increase or decrease your chances of having sex again and again with her.

You see, this might be another AFC assumption, like buying flowers, that you have to be with her after sex.

I'm not a fellow stud that has bedded many women (or any woman for that matter) BUT I'd hazard a guess and say that your chances increase if you stay for some cuddling. Why? If you just do the deed and leave, she's likely to think, "hmmm, I feel sort of unfulfilled..." She may have enjoyed the sex but you jetting without some connection (aka cuddling) will lead her to believe that she was nothing more than a cheap fu@k for you....thus decreasing the chances of her giving you an encore.

Of course there are women that don't care and are happy to see your a$$ out the door (not EVERY woman likes to cuddle).

Sex is more than just the orgasm for some women. It encompasses foreplay and cuddling. So while you may have thought it was a successful fu@k, she may be left thinking, "wow, my ex was amazing in bed."
 

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Lishy said:
I bet he is a 2 pump chump lol

Actually Lish, I am repeatedly told I am the best lover she has ever had, or that was the best orgasm she has ever had. I'll tell you why in short:

I know how to tease, I know how to take my time, I know how to be soft and smooth, as well as rough and raw. I know how hard to pull your hair if thats what you like. I know if you like a little spanking, or getting bit. I have no reservations, and I always give it to her how she likes it.

I am completely in tune to the woman I am with, never thinking of another woman. I communicate during the experience, be it dirty talk or clarifying what feels the best.

I've been trained from a young teen in the art of pleasing women, from a large variety of women.

I could go on and on and on, or I could let you read one of my books, or if you are ever in my neighborhood, a few seconds of eye contact should convince you.

BTW, I usually hang around after and remain attentive. But I dont always feel like it. That's all.

LOL
 

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L777 said:
Well there's no need to be a d.ick about it, i.e. just leave pretty much straight away.

If it was a girl I was interested in having sex with again, I'd stay and cuddle and stuff, if it was an obvious ONS, I'd either stay and talk for a bit, just have a laugh and stuff, and then leave after a while, or if she's at my place just sleep there with her.

Just leaving without a word is really low, IMO. It may make you feel like a 'pimp' or whatever, but in reality, its a sh.itty thing to do.
I agree. I think that guys who actually ask ONSs to leave after sex are just being d1cks. I only have single bed at my place that isn't that comfortable for two people but I would never ask a ONS to leave (unless they hung around excessively in the morning, but even then I would subtley hint that I had to be places and offer to walk with them to a taxi rank/bus stop etc.)

By the way, good to see a fellow mancunian!
 

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Purple-Haze said:
I'm not a fellow stud that has bedded many women (or any woman for that matter) BUT I'd hazard a guess and say that your chances increase if you stay for some cuddling. Why? If you just do the deed and leave, she's likely to think, "hmmm, I feel sort of unfulfilled..." She may have enjoyed the sex but you jetting without some connection (aka cuddling) will lead her to believe that she was nothing more than a cheap fu@k for you....thus decreasing the chances of her giving you an encore.

Of course there are women that don't care and are happy to see your a$$ out the door (not EVERY woman likes to cuddle).

Sex is more than just the orgasm for some women. It encompasses foreplay and cuddling. So while you may have thought it was a successful fu@k, she may be left thinking, "wow, my ex was amazing in bed."
I think this is a fair assumption.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mistic you should consider just being honest and telling her you do not want anything serious and all you want is a fk buddy who has sex with you when it is convienient with you.

She is already having sex with you with no commitmnent so it probably wont be a problem.

Instead of worrying about what to do, how about just telling her straight and showing her the kind of man you are. You are not ashamed to tell us on here how wonderful you are and how great a lover you are and also how you just want sex and nothing else, well tell her and any others that too

End of problem!
 

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Mistic said:
Well, if it's stinky pvssy, shower, otherwise try wait. Also, it has to have been really great sex. It's the smell and the whole vibe that they pick up on. For you non believers, I had the female lawyer who is against me in my njury suite, sending me fvck vibes while she was interrogating me in the office, because I had insane sex the night before and didn't shower. The female court reporter was also sending me IOI's.
I know what you are saying, I just can't help but feel that the vibe and the possible glint in your eye that tells her you have just had great sex is more relevant. Plus the confidence boost a good spot of horizontal jogging often induces.
 

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Lishy said:
Mistic you should consider just being honest and telling her you do not want anything serious and all you want is a fk buddy who has sex with you when it is convienient with you.

She is already having sex with you with no commitmnent so it probably wont be a problem.

Instead of worrying about what to do, how about just telling her straight and showing her the kind of man you are. You are not ashamed to tell us on here how wonderful you are and how great a lover you are and also how you just want sex and nothing else, well tell her and any others that too

End of problem!
Well, the problem is, even if I give this disclaimer, the experience I give her overrides it. She may agree and say she doesn't want anything serious, but then things change after the fact.

BTW, I'm not bragging, I just know my stuff. Women are one of my specialties, and I want them to have a great experience with me.

I have been married and in several LTR's, but I have learned a few things that others, esp. women aren't ready to accept.
 

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Mistic said:
Well, the problem is, even if I give this disclaimer, the experience I give her overrides it. She may agree and say she doesn't want anything serious, but then things change after the fact.

BTW, I'm not bragging, I just know my stuff. Women are one of my specialties, and I want them to have a great experience with me.

I have been married and in several LTR's, but I have some learned a few things that others, esp. women aren't ready to accept.
Well if you've been upfront with her about your intentions and she is OK with it, then you continue doing your thing.

Just make sure you stick around for the cuddle if she seems like a cuddler. You say you pay attention to her during sex, so what's an extra 30 mins?
 

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AlanB said:
I know what you are saying, I just can't help but feel that the vibe and the possible glint in your eye that tells her you have just had great sex is more relevant. Plus the confidence boost a good spot of horizontal jogging often induces.
I agree about the relevence. But every little bit counts.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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You may have learned these things and you are probably right BUT if you have told her and she gets all clingy after you can whip out ya contract and feel no pain!

Just be honest - If you want them to have a great experience with you then dont give them the wrong impression!
 

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Lishy said:
You may have learned these things and you are probably right BUT if you have told her and she gets all clingy after you can whip out ya contract and feel no pain!

Just be honest - If you want them to have a great experience with you then dont give them the wrong impression!
I am honest, but more importantly I am just ME. I don't adjust my nature to please women. They take me as I am or they dont.

As far as the contract, it really doesn't work. Once women have what they know they have always been looking for, they will never stop trying. I have women from years ago still trying.

I know going in that this will happen, but I can't give them a bad experience just to avoid the clingy after effects.
 
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