Late Late Bloomer...

[leeman67]

(Here is my scoop). I was head over heels in love with someone for about two years. Thought that she felt the same about me. She strung me out the entire time and used me for everything it was worth. (this was in 1990-1992. Back in those days, I was severely overweight and had very low self esteem. When I found out she was seeing one of my best friends secretly. It hit me like a ton of bricks that we were never going to hook up. I was devistated. Two good things happened from this. One thing was very good. (I got off my fat butt and hit the gym for two straight years, Never missed a workout). I lost about 170lbs . The other, I focused on my career and I make very good money now. However, some bad things did come of this. I got so focused on the two above. I never worked on my self image and I crawed into a social schell. I couldnt even get the gumption to ask women out that I knew wanted me to ask them out becuse I didnt want to be hurt again. I stayed like this till around the last 5-6 years. I started to use the eye contact & hello approach about 5-7 years ago and found it did indeed work. Ended up getting some dates. some I didnt. So I will step out on a limb and say that I have been in two relationships. (The one above, which was never really a relationship to begin with) and someone I met a year ago. ( I blew that one). To sum this up. I have took care of two aspects of my life. My physical well being and my financial well being. I need a major overhall socially. When I am on dates, I am toooo nice to the point that they give up on me and move on. (I have been out on dates with some real hotties). I have found only one thing. Its alot easier to get laid then to get a relationship. So yes, I am at everyones feet and plead for help. Im not above asking for anyones advice about what I need to change . I appreciate any contructive criticism.

 

[SeldomSeen]

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I just turned 39 and I have better success with women than I did at 21. Im not financially secure either. A long time ago I started wondering why women would say what an ******* my friend was and how nice I was but I had to wonder why were they sleeping with him? I stopped listening to what women said to me and started watching what he does right (as well as what he does wrong) I also started becoming friends with a few females so I could understand their minds. Since I was just their friend I could find out things that a girlfriend wouldnt tell you. Then I started reading books. Lots of them! In a matter of 2 years my game changed significantly. I could get women left and right. When I was 32 I had 19 year old women chasing after me, as well as 21 year olds. You really need to start inside. Carry yourself differently and love yourself FIRST. I recommend you pick up some books and read, read, read...and also check the articles here on the main page.

 

[Badmannaz]

^^ dude i'm in no position to tell you anything or give advice^^^

but all I think you should do is if your looking for a relationship you should know what you want and cut down on the small talk...I noticed lot's of girls just want a guy who's layed back and comfortable with himself and is real ...just go out there and be real be you ....


if i didn't help i'm sorry that's what I'm doing...but in the end knowone on here can help you but only voice what they Wish they can do but it's safer to sit behind the comp and preach theories they've never practiced.... so i hopew you find your one...

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Those who talk about the past and do nothing about it, stay in the past.