Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Last night: trouble getting erection: where do I get from here with plate?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I experienced the same thing in my early 50s. 8 to 10 testosterone pellets every 5 months or so, and I'm a hard as a teenager on demand and multiple times per day until they start to run out at about 4 1/2 months.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Is your sex life treating you well? Sex on demand without hurdles and games to get to the puzzy?
Zoloft is being prescribed for pre-mature ejaculation? I've never heard of this..... I've heard of doctors prescribing numbing agents that guys would rub on their c0ck to prevent PE but I've never heard of zoloft for that purpose.....
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Absolutely. That's because I won't have it any other way. I don't deal with women who play games. There's no reason to.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
"You need a friendly vag that desires you" I will never forget your words.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Yup. You know what i mean. A vag that hates you that occasionally tolerates you is not good for your c0ck.
OP here.
It looks like it was probably 100% the zoloft causing the issue.
I wasn't getting morning woods, now 7 days off it I am.
A Plate (main plate) came over Tues and Wednesday night this week. Had sex 3x in 2.5 days but used viagara each time. Pretty good sex actually. Had no erection issues. Not sure if I needed it or not. Too scared not to use it!
Plate no. 2 who I could not get it up with on 4th date reinitiated contact with me before I did. I think I pissed her off though bc she text me one night at 7 pm and I didn't respond until the following day bc I had main plate over. She agreed to grab take out with me on Saturday but has since gone really cold...I know ill advised, but I actually called her and left a message this morning, just playfully laid out the facts about why I wasn't able to get it up and was cool if she wanted to go in a different direction, but if not, like to see her Saturday. Now that she's gone cold, of course, I'm honestly even more interested in her.
Plate no.3 and the easiest lay is the one I'm least interested in but I'm going to set up something with her next week to just ensure regular sex and so I dont get too thirsty for the other plates.
It looks like it was probably 100% the zoloft causing the issue.
I wasn't getting morning woods, now 7 days off it I am.
A Plate (main plate) came over Tues and Wednesday night this week. Had sex 3x in 2.5 days but used viagara each time. Pretty good sex actually. Had no erection issues. Not sure if I needed it or not. Too scared not to use it!
Plate no. 2 who I could not get it up with on 4th date reinitiated contact with me before I did. I think I pissed her off though bc she text me one night at 7 pm and I didn't respond until the following day bc I had main plate over. She agreed to grab take out with me on Saturday but has since gone really cold...I know ill advised, but I actually called her and left a message this morning, just playfully laid out the facts about why I wasn't able to get it up and was cool if she wanted to go in a different direction, but if not, like to see her Saturday. Now that she's gone cold, of course, I'm honestly even more interested in her.
Plate no.3 and the easiest lay is the one I'm least interested in but I'm going to set up something with her next week to just ensure regular sex and so I dont get too thirsty for the other plates.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
You are waaay too insecure about this. Zoloft and many other similar medications tend to make your little friend numb. They also inhibit Serotonin re-uptake which translates to delayed ejaculation.
So the medication had that effect on you. So what? You’re off it now so it should be business as usual. Leaving a message with that girl was probably not the best idea as it showed you were insecure about it.
Women usually adopt the mindset of the man they’re with in any given situation. If you conveyed that it was no big deal to you, it wouldn’t have been any big deal to her. Women do not think for themselves. They look around at others to see how they “should” think.
Ever see a little toddler fall down and they immediately look at the parent to see if they should freak out or not? If the parent reacts with amusement, they will take the fall with a grain of salt. If the parent freaks out (“Oh no! Are you ok?!?!”), the kid will start wailing.
Women are children.
So the medication had that effect on you. So what? You’re off it now so it should be business as usual. Leaving a message with that girl was probably not the best idea as it showed you were insecure about it.
Women usually adopt the mindset of the man they’re with in any given situation. If you conveyed that it was no big deal to you, it wouldn’t have been any big deal to her. Women do not think for themselves. They look around at others to see how they “should” think.
Ever see a little toddler fall down and they immediately look at the parent to see if they should freak out or not? If the parent reacts with amusement, they will take the fall with a grain of salt. If the parent freaks out (“Oh no! Are you ok?!?!”), the kid will start wailing.
Women are children.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Yup. I’ve thrown a few Hail Marys in my day. It’s understandable that your issue was a concern. But when dealing with women, the trick is to convey that it’s no big deal, even it requires a little acting. They always pick up on your own assessment of things.
Op here. Just an update.
Pretty good outcome to this.
Met chick that I couldn't get it up with last night.
Went to her place last night and had sex, no issues. Did use viagara as insurance and sex was good.
Seems like I was able to recover fine from this.
Seemed to bother me far more than her...
One other thing to add...this chick seems to be a little clumsy in bed. like not great with giving bj's. I think that may have also contributed to the issue..
Pretty good outcome to this.
Met chick that I couldn't get it up with last night.
Went to her place last night and had sex, no issues. Did use viagara as insurance and sex was good.
Seems like I was able to recover fine from this.
Seemed to bother me far more than her...
One other thing to add...this chick seems to be a little clumsy in bed. like not great with giving bj's. I think that may have also contributed to the issue..