last names and "ur" legacy

[_sideways_]

My friend married a girl and she kept her last name...ummm... OK...
He just had a baby.

They decided before hand that if the baby was female, then she would have the moms last name. Or if male, then he would have the dads last name.

I know that having a healthy baby and being a happy family unit is above a "name".

But...

How do you feel about this situation?

Also I don't know their personal relationship ...I just view it from the outside. And it's none of my business. But I wouldn't want to have a baby girl and have her not have my surname.
If a woman isn't OK with that, I guess that's one thing we will have to work on. On top of the other life changes that she can't handle too easily. That's marriage. ;-)

Because I'm there for my women, but I definitely see a shift in well to do men.
Like they don't want to rock the boat ????

Maybe its an american issue.

What y'all think?

 

[Anpha]

I'm 21, my dad left when i was 5 and was raised by my single mother. I changed my last name last year so I could pass on lineage of my mums side. It really depends on how much you value family and passing on your name.

 

[old_skoolr]

I'm Greek and of course will be naming my son after my father.

Talked with the gf bout this, she doesnt like it, but meh too bad.

 

[NSX-R]

I'm Greek and of course will be naming my son after my father.

Talked with the gf bout this, she doesnt like it, but meh too bad.

Another Greek in SS , who would have imagined.
I'm also Greek and i have the name of my grandfather as well my middle sister has the name of my grandma both from my father's side. I will be doing the same if i ever make kids and i won't accept any denial.

If I'm so lucky and end up with a Greek woman, it will be easy to do because it's very common with Greeks.

 

[Juanto]

Another Greek in SS , who would have imagined.
I'm also Greek and i have the name of my grandfather as well my middle sister has the name of my grandma both from my father's side. I will be doing the same if i ever make kids and i won't accept any denial.

If I'm so lucky and end up with a Greek woman, it will be easy to do because it's very common with Greeks.

What is this fixation about the greeks and using the same names over and over and over again?

 

[Von]

What is this fixation about the greeks and using the same names over and over and over again?

Eternal life? They do it to show a family continuity has legacy

Like Americans,,,, who put .... Jr , Sr, I, II, III

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Hell nah, my kids are having my last name no matter what. My legacy WILL be greater than my wife's. I took after my father's last name and my mom changed hers to my dad's. I can honestly say from what I know of my dad's side of the family vs my mom's, dad is way better. Much more honorable people and much higher class too; just overall greater people who were tougher and had a larger impact on the world, especially my grandfather (RIP). Truthfully I have no idea how my parents even married because their backgrounds are polar opposites lol.

I digress. I am on the path of greatness and my kids shall be apart of that as I will consider them a part of myself. My wife will learn to accept it and be apart of it or leave. My legacy will be greater than hers (simply because what I am aspiring for is extremely rare to find in a person). My kids will all have mine and my dad's last name and so will their kids. Past that I don't care as much, but I strongly wish for my grandkids not to change their last name when they get married.

Anyway, I need to get back to achieving my goals right now. This added extra motivation. Thank you.

 

[SmooveMooves]

I wouldn't accept this. What's the point in partaking in a huge commitment such as marriage if you're not going to make any sacrifices? That's the point of a man's life, to pass on his lineage. Why would a woman want to undermine that? Their relationship won't last, I guarantee it.

 

[old_skoolr]

Another Greek in SS , who would have imagined.
I'm also Greek and i have the name of my grandfather as well my middle sister has the name of my grandma both from my father's side. I will be doing the same if i ever make kids and i won't accept any denial.

If I'm so lucky and end up with a Greek woman, it will be easy to do because it's very common with Greeks.

My girlfriend is Greek but not a big fan of the idea lol not because of the continuing the name, just that my fathers name is very stereotypical Greek (George) and she hates it, though I'll get my way.

 

[SgtSplacker]

If a woman doesn't want to take my last name I'll walk. Marriage is to much of an obligation for men, one of the best parts is taking pride in my family name being passed on. Take that away and all that's left is a bunch of financial obligation and responsibility to support some skank that does not respect your lineage.

 

[NSX-R]

What is this fixation about the greeks and using the same names over and over and over again?

I don't really know, i believe it's just a way to show your respect to your parents . If i ever make a son i would give it the name of my father for the reason that my father is the man whom i respect the most.

My girlfriend is Greek but not a big fan of the idea lol not because of the continuing the name, just that my fathers name is very stereotypical Greek (George) and she hates it, though I'll get my way.

Haha try to guess my name (tip: the one your gf doesn't like xD).

 

[El Payaso]

Fvck that. The kid is having my name.