"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Last date over 2 weeks ago & dealing with bad logistics

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Met a girl from pof we seem to get along great. We've had 4 dates the last one was the night after thanksgiving and she ended up sleeping with me that night. The farthest we've gone was the night she slept over, she gave me a bj lots of touching and humping, but she wouldn't have sex though I tried.

We live a hour away from each other. Both our schedules are busy, mined just got lighter and will be for the next month. Her's is as busy as before and she gets weird days of(like monday and tuesday). I've tried to keep attraction/comfort going thru texts, she has initiated texts as well. I have dates with other girls early this week and would like to see her later this week. What would be a good way to ask her when is she free to see me without coming across as needy?

Also the night she slept over, we hung out with my friends she said she had a great time and it was one of the funniest nights she's had in the city. We get back to my place and she was disappointed I live with my father, she didnt say that but I had to play it very cool so she didn't leave. I think that is making me hesitant to try to setup something with her, perhaps overthinking. Ideally I would like her to catch the train from the suburbs into the city, have me pick her up from the train station go see a movie, get drinks, then end up back at my place. There is a movie coming out this weekend that she wants to see badly.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Our last text convo went like this

Her: Hope your test went well so u can relax and enjoy the holidays!! (at 1:30am fri night)

(the next afternoon)
Me: My test went great and I was looking thru my holiday list...

Me: (Naughty Ninja's holiday text)

Her: Yea I don't think I'm on either list. So not ready for the holidays!

Me:I've just put you on my naughty list for not being ready for the holidays... Any plans for the weekend?

Her: Lol I'm working. On my way to xx for a basketball game.

Her: How about u?

Me: Tonight I'm going to watch the Pacquiao Marquez fight at my friend's house. Headed to the gym and store right now :)

Her: I like your day better than mine!

Also wondering if I should call her tomorrow afternoon but there is a chance she will be doing something for work. I hate all this texting with no setting up a meetup, not knowing her schedule is annoying.

"Hey xx what's your schedule like this week? The (name of the movie) is coming out this week wanna come down to the city and watch it with me?"

Is all I can think of but seems like too much for 1 text. ugh.
 
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Well just had a text convo with the girl this thread is about. Long story short she's been extremely busy with work. Her work has been all over the news, don't want too get specific but I opened the convo tonight touching on that. Then asked how she was doing, she said she wasn't feeling well today. I told her to get some rest, and maybe I could cheer her up when she gets some free time. She responded with "Things have been really busy lately. I'm off thurs/fri so ill let you know if I'm feeling better." I didn't respond and will leave it up to her to contact me, which she has done in the past.

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On another note a different girl was just at my place pretty much a fwb. I think I'm through with her, she is getting too annoying, the sex is good, she gives great bjs but just too annoying, and I think she's catching feelings. I'd rather not been seen in public with her tbh. Yea I'm gonna dump her, give her the talk and stop seeing her. I feel nasty after fuking her I should stop it.
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Have a 1st date with a 34 yo milf tomorrow night, pretty sure she's dtf on/after the 1st date. I think I'm learning I can't go around fuking any ol girl that gives a good bj anymore. I'm starting to lose attraction quick to girls who are just "good enough" but I have no real connection/things in common with. She seems cool and looks good, but we'll see tomorrow night.
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Oh yea had met a girl from across the country who hit me up on pof 2 weeks ago. She texts me all the time, we had phone sex the other night. I'm suppose to visit her in a few weeks when she comes home. It would be a 3.5 hour drive but she said she already has a hotel at the 4 seasons booked and she would take care of the hotel. Feeling kinda bad about her because she's acting like she's falling hard for me and we only saw each other 1 night when she was here! She said she's trying to move to the city where I live but still, kinda strange, she's kinda hot tho lol. Gotta smash that one tho so keeping her warm until I see her. She told me she had just joined pof a week before she messaged me and hasnt had sex in 6 months...
 
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