Last Chance, Need to Make it Happen

[The Light]

I'm not aspiring to be a hard core PUA, but I would appreciate the opinions of people that can look at my situation in that light. So here it is, I'll make it as brief as possible...

I'm in my last year of college, and since the end of my freshman year, there has been this girl that I've always had a little crush on but only known casually. Of course, I very foolishly didn't pursue at the time. Well, the crush hasn't gone away, and I'll never be able to live with myself if I don't at least try something. So now that I'm in my last year of college, I've sort tried to pick it up a bit the past couple months.

In these past couple months, we've hung out a little big (a casual dinner, gotten some ice cream, went to a few college sports events here on campus), but nothing really consistent because we have both been really busy with school and finding jobs and such. These hangouts have put me in a position now where it would not be weird if I called her out of the blue. It's getting to the point, though, where if I continue down this path I will be forever in the "friend zone" (if I'm not there already), so it's time to make my intentions known.

I can sense that there may be something there on her end, because she treats me differently than most of her other guy friends, and the past few times we have talked it's been her making the call/text/whatever.

Just to paint a better picture, this girl is really conservative, never really has had a boyfriend. Basically one of those really smart, beautiful, ambitious, and overly nice girls. I know I have put her on a pedestal, but I need to at least make an attempt and crash and burn so that I can get over this.

Help??

 

[slaog]

First thing to do is take her off the pedestal.

Second thing to do is make a move.


You should go for it. You've nothing to lose and it's better to take a chance then regret not taking it.

 

[magickarl]

The only thing that concerns me is that you maybe YEARS in to the friendzone. Which would explain why she treats you different from her other guy friends.

Like slaog said, if you want any shot with this girl, you have got to take her off the pedestal. Women have an uncanny ability to detect worshipers, and even if she says yes to the notion of being with you, she is going to be turned off quickly if you hold her so high that she intimidates you. Why has it taken you two years to make a move on the woman if she didn't?

Just remember she eats, breathes, and craves sex just like you do. Deep down on the inside she is the same beast that you've known all of your life. She was born like you were born, and will die like you will die. So take her off the pedestal. She is no more special than you are.

The other thing..... Get a ****ING move on! Because she already spends time with you, you do not have to ask her out of a date. Especially if she is the one calling/texting you lately. All you have to worry about is escalating. A bottle of wine, deep conversation moving on to the subject of romance/sex and kino will go a long way. So grab the bull by its horns and Git R Dun. :rockon:

If you have her phone number, that means that at least once she considered you a romantic prospect, but probably figured you weren't interested when you didn't make a move. Turn the tables on this girl, and sweep her off her feet with your manful exuberance. And DO NOT admit that you worshiped from afar from years. As poetic and fantastic as it sounds, unless she expresses similar sentiments, it's going to come off as creepy or BS.

Get out there and do what you've got to do.