"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LASIK? Laser Eye Surgery

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Im sick and tired of wearing glasses.

Im getting LASIK on the 2nd week of March.. Anyone wanna share their 2 cents about this topic? or do you or know anyone who had lasik? if so are you/they happy with the result?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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il_duce

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Is it true that you need follow-up surgeries? I heard that some people got LASIK, and their vision was great for like 4 years, then all of a sudden their eyes started going to ****, and they needed to have it done again.
 

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Yes you will need to have a second surgury, and a third, etc... until you change your lifestyle. Meaning you have to stop making your eyes adapt to close up situations all day. If you get the surgery and you contine to sit in front if the computer all day, or read documents at work, school constantly without taking a break, your eyes will become accustomed to it again and they wil become even more elongated.

That's the only reason why you are nearsighted, is because you eyes have elongated to adapt to your visual situations you find yourself in most often. IN that respect it can be reversed with exercises(no not the bates method either). Anyway the shape of the eye is controled by muscles and like any other muscle in the body you can work them to reshape your eye to it's original form. I went from a -4.00 in both eyes to a now -.25 in about 6 months, 20 minutes a day. Of course I wasn't always faithfull to the program so I could have gotten better results faster.
 

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Originally posted by blackbirdbeatle If you get the surgery and you contine to sit in front if the computer all day, or read documents at work, school constantly without taking a break, your eyes will become accustomed to it again and they wil become even more elongated.

That's the only reason why you are nearsighted, is because you eyes have elongated to adapt to your visual situations you find yourself in most often.

Could you back that up?
Actually it's mostly genetical, when I ask eyedoctors and opticians they always tell me reading or looking at computer screens doesn't detioriate your eyes (as long as you take some breaks)

I went from a -4.00 in both eyes to a now -.25 in about 6 months, 20 minutes a day. Of course I wasn't always faithfull to the program so I could have gotten better results faster.
WTF??!?! from -4 to -0.25?? Could you elaborate on that? What program is that?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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blackbirdbeatle

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Actually I would question the motives of an optometrist that tells you that it's all generic. Do you honestly believe that? Go ask your grandparents how many people had glasses 60 years ago. GO look at indigenous tribes and those that work outside for a living. Now go to the IT department of an office. Just walk around and look at the number of people wearing glasses and double it for people wearing contacts. I bet 1in 2 now have bad eyes. It's because of our lifestyle and our eyes have adapted to it.

If you ever read up on optometry school(I was going to go to it and my friend does) you would see that they have an option of to take extra programs to add behavioural optometry experience to their credentials. Meaning alternative routs for vision correction.

Don't really care if you don't believe me because I'm not dependant on my glasses anymore. Gave the program to my mom and she isn't either.
 

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What exactly is this program that improved your vision??? I'm intrigued
 

blackbirdbeatle

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I don't really want to sound like a walking advert. but do a google search for Vision For Life. I also combined this with poistive diopter lenses, however I was under the supervision of a behavioural optometrist while I was using the diopter lense so I wouldn't overstress my eyes. The Vision for Life program you can use whenever.
 

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good post, does anyone know if lasik works on stigmatisms, thats what i have apparently, its where your neither short or long sighted , but rather everythings blurry from the shape of the eyeballs, (ie football shape instead of soccerball), optometrist told me if it wasnt for the shape of my eyeballs i would have perfect vision.
 

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I want to get Lasic too I'm a -5.25 in my worst eye. I didn't know it could change back over time. My work will involve sitting in front of the computer and drawing, painting etc . . . . So maybe I shouldn't bother. But I also wonder about the long term effects of sticking contacts in my eyes daily.

I'm definilty goig to look up these "eye excercises". I used to squint all the time and avoid glasses like the plague but that didn't help.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I have found the Bates method to be helpful.....however if you stop practising and meander back to your old habits there is chance of regression.So best way to avoid wearing glasses or deteriorating your eyesight is by adapting your lifestyle such that your eyes are not always stressed to look at objects.... one should take breaks from their work , esp. when on the computer, every two hours for 10 minutes or so.Walk around...look outside...look at the greenery....it helps your eye to focus on near as well as objects at a distance.

Peace!
 

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Lasik is dangerous dude, it can really mess up your eyesight if it doesn't go to plan. Just read some of the horror stories on the net, it'll make you think twice.

Contacts ain't that bad, and your eyes are the most import sense you have, I wouldn't rish potentially farking up my vision with Lazik just so i don't have to use them. There's a reason a lot of lazik surgeons still wear glasses dude!
 

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Well being a DJ is dangerous too. You take lots of risk, undergo through heavy changes, lose friends. There's horror story for that too. :D

The benefit of LASIK outweigh the disadvantage heavily.
 
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