"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lao Tzu

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Lao Tzu is a great Chinese philosopher. Those familiar with history and literature may remember his famous contribution, Daodejing (Tao Te Ching). He's also the "founder of philosophical Taoism, and a deity in religious Taoism and traditional Chinese religions" (Wiki). It's been debated if Lao's the sole author of the book, though deserves most of the credit where credit is due.

One of the greatest gifts a Don Juan can give to himself is knowing himself well.



The wisdom of Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching is in developing a higher awareness of self. His intent was for students to return to a natural state and freedom from desires.

Here are some of his famous passages:

“Simplicity, patience, compassion.
These three are your greatest treasures.
Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being.
Patient with both friends and enemies,
you accord with the way things are.
Compassionate toward yourself,
you reconcile all beings in the world.”

“Knowing others is intelligence;
knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength;
mastering yourself is true power.”

“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear?”

“A man with outward courage dares to die; a man with inner courage dares to live.”

“A leader is best
When people barely know he exists
Of a good leader, who talks little,
When his work is done, his aim fulfilled,
They will say, “We did this ourselves.”

“He who conquers others is strong; he who conquers himself is mighty"

“Fill your bowl to the brim and it will spill. Keep sharpening your knife and it will blunt.”
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Smooth..
 

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This reminded me of a movie called "The Tao of Steve". I found it interesting when I watched it in the middle of learning game, it mixes taoism and seduction.
 
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