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I searched for this, but couldn't find anything like this, so here's my thread lol:

My gf speaks english and spanish. Usually when we're at her place, she'll get a few calls from family and she'll usually speak spanish with them. However, I don't know that EVERY call is her family.

Last night she gets a call around 10 or so and starts talking in spanish. Just from the way she was talking I was suspicious. Sometimes you might not understand the language, but you can tell what kind of conversation the person is having. I don't think she was talking to family.

Anyways, I didn't bring it up or anything, because if she really wanted to, she could just lie.

I checked her phone this morning to see what the number was and she had deleted it.

What's the best thing to do in this kind of situation? I don't want to ask her everytime "who was that" when she had a spanish conversation on the phone. However, I don't want to be a chump while she's talking to some dude.

I could always ask her to speak english, but I'll probably just get this "oh, whoever doesn't really speak english very well blah blah"

Any ideas?
 

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Originally posted by italostud
I searched for this, but couldn't find anything like this, so here's my thread lol:

My gf speaks english and spanish. Usually when we're at her place, she'll get a few calls from family and she'll usually speak spanish with them. However, I don't know that EVERY call is her family.

Last night she gets a call around 10 or so and starts talking in spanish. Just from the way she was talking I was suspicious. Sometimes you might not understand the language, but you can tell what kind of conversation the person is having. I don't think she was talking to family.

Anyways, I didn't bring it up or anything, because if she really wanted to, she could just lie.

I checked her phone this morning to see what the number was and she had deleted it.

What's the best thing to do in this kind of situation? I don't want to ask her everytime "who was that" when she had a spanish conversation on the phone. However, I don't want to be a chump while she's talking to some dude.

I could always ask her to speak english, but I'll probably just get this "oh, whoever doesn't really speak english very well blah blah"

Any ideas?
Secretly start taking Spanish lessons. Don't mention a word to her, and when she tells you it's family, bust her azz...LOL
 

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Lol, the thought crossed my mind, but learning a whole language just to bust her....:down: :crackup:

Plus I'm learning a different language right now, so learning 2 new languages at the same time might be pushing it :D
 

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I dont want to worry you but this seems highly suspect. The only advice i can give you is to be a man. IF she is up to something confront her. Also what is her behaviour to you lately, does she seem distant, is she less sexual with you. Is ther a change in her mood towards you
 

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Does she usually delete the number when it's her family? If not, it seems quite suspect that should would do this.
 

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Her behavior has been relatively normal. But girls can be sneaky and I'll never trust one 100% even if she's acting normal. Sometimes she deletes numbers, other times she doesn't. So, it's not TOTALLY out of the ordinary.
 

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Originally posted by italostud
Her behavior has been relatively normal. But girls can be sneaky and I'll never trust one 100% even if she's acting normal. Sometimes she deletes numbers, other times she doesn't. So, it's not TOTALLY out of the ordinary.
Well, I'll say this bro. TRUST YOUR GUT. If you felt something was not right when you heard her talk, you're probably right.

I wish you well, and if she is cheating, tell her to get lost and get yourself someone better.
 

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I am in the same boat (was)

Dude, my girlfriend did the same crap. You have no way of knowing.
look at it like this, would you pick up the phone and start chatting in front of her? Do that, it will put her in check.
 
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