"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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martinM.

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There's a girl that works at a store that i go to fairly often. We usually say hi when we see eachother. Yesterday she had her co worker ask me if i had a girlfriend. I said no and she gave me her phone number. She calls me today and asks me if i want to go out sometime, i said yes. We're going out tomorrow evening. Anyway, the thing is she only speaks spanish and i understand very little spanish. So what i need to know is; is eachother one word or two words?

But seriously any advice on this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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amoka

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Since when do women started given their numbers out to guys voluntarily and when the guy is not quick enough, they call the guy and book the date... Is she alright or simply desperate? Anyway, you can have a blast without necessary speaking the same language. I'll say the most difficult part is setting up a date, which you already achieved successfully. She knows what she wants, and you know what you want. It is all in your body language, facial expression.... for fault proof date, I'll bring Webster Spanish-English dictionary along, in case you need it.
 

martinM.

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I was going to wait until the weekend was over to call, but she called first. I've gotten numbers voluntarily from girls before, it didn't seem like a problem.
 

DJDamage

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Just keep it simple.

Try to converse in her language while teaching her your language and vis versa.

Its best if you do some sort of activity that doesn't require alot of talking just like playing pool in a bar.

You don't need to say much when you go for a kiss either, its all universal from there on.
 

martinM.

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Date went really well. There was not a lot of talk, but it wasn't awkward silence.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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betterthandead

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If both personalities click well then this is pretty much more of a side issue that can be worked on.
 

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Hey, they sell those.. lil' hand held translators.. you type stuff in.. and it speaks it in the other language!
 

martinM.

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Just got back from the second date a few hours ago. Everything went well. There was kissing and some light touching but not being able to speak her language has me thinking how important flirting really is. It's different.

Learning spanish is one thing but being able to flirt... i dont know that i'm going to learn in time.
 
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