"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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landlady LTR?

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i dunno if this is weird? im having a relationship with my landlady. im 26 and shes 37 and shes divorced, she hot too. No kidding men. Do you DJs agree with this kind of relationship? i mean a LTR?
Ive been with her for like 4 months. Had sex with her several times, she really likes it, she even asked me where i learned this and that, shes kinda compliment me about how good she feels.

I talked to my mom and older brother about this. Just wannted to have some view from them. they told me im crazy and yelled at me to stay away from her. Also told a guy friend about it. asked him to give me some comments about it. He says nothing. cant comment at all about the relationship i have. This shows me why he doesnt have a girlfriend.

so i wanna know every master DJ opinion about the relationship i have with my landlady. should i continue or just stay away from her?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Not LTR, maybe fbuddy - but you should move out if you plan to date other women.
 

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lol

Ask her how she feels, her description can be your conviction.

Listen to her words, command her to give you the honest truth if it is not there at first.

If she can tell you honsestly that you are both getting what you want in the relationship, than you can sit, boy.

Otherwise you may just turn out to be ffriends, good Ffriends. Don't be afraid to ask the right questions and demand answers. Make sure you listen to what she says, notice her movements as she speaks to you, her eyes and her habits do they dissapear.

This is going to be a tough question, don't fret. This simple conversation will liven both of you up.
 

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lol completely forgot about that point. You better be getting free rent sonny boy!!!!

That crossed my mind during my post though. The reason you are asking your LANDLANDY this message is... are you the only man she is sleeping with? No, yeah, maybe... is she the only lady you are sleeping with? No, yeah, maybe?

Whatever the answer is, you need more information. It's in your heart what you want from her. She might just be enjoying the free sex she is getting from one of her occupants. Heck, your basically living together already.

Forget everything I just said above, **** her, keep her, control her. Let her be your run to the store ho.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by FRëSHURE
Free rent would be good :)
now we get to the point.

She and i were in the kitchen. I asked her yesterday if shes is possible not to charge me for the rent. she said no i cant. this is not possible. Then i asked her why are good to me (like cooking dinner and breakfast for me sometimes)?. Not sure if she misundertood me with what i said. Then, she sunddely starts feeling sad, eyes turning red like trying to cry. Then i asked her again why one more time?. She told me to go and she went back to her room and closed the door. Then i left to my room.
does this mean that i ****ed up completely or what? I didnt mean to hurt her or something.
 

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Originally posted by gongxia649
now we get to the point.

She and i were in the kitchen. I asked her yesterday if shes is possible not to charge me for the rent. she said no i cant. this is not possible. Then i asked her why are good to me (like cooking dinner and breakfast for me sometimes)?. Not sure if she misundertood me with what i said. Then, she sunddely starts feeling sad, eyes turning red like trying to cry. Then i asked her again why one more time?. She told me to go and she went back to her room and closed the door. Then i left to my room.
does this mean that i ****ed up completely or what? I didnt mean to hurt her or something.
idiot.

translation: you want to pay for housing with sex. she takes that as meaning that you don't really care about her.

I'm inclined to agree with her. what kind of selfish jackass would ask her to do something like that? she's renting room out to you because she needs the money. I wouldn't ask my girlfriend to pay my rent, but you apparently have no qualms.
 

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Originally posted by gongxia649
now we get to the point.

She and i were in the kitchen. I asked her yesterday if shes is possible not to charge me for the rent. she said no i cant. this is not possible. Then i asked her why are good to me (like cooking dinner and breakfast for me sometimes)?. Not sure if she misundertood me with what i said. Then, she sunddely starts feeling sad, eyes turning red like trying to cry. Then i asked her again why one more time?. She told me to go and she went back to her room and closed the door. Then i left to my room.
does this mean that i ****ed up completely or what? I didnt mean to hurt her or something.

Dude, yeah - way to be direct about it. That's not something you just ask directly. Being a landlady is what she does. It's her job. She needs your money to live. What you can hope for with a relationship like that is occasional breaks on the rent, late fees, etc.

If you care about her, take her out to dinner, man. And show her that you care, don't tell her. You probably hurt her a lot. She probably feels pretty used. Be sweet, but don't be an AFC. If there's anything you don't want, it's a bad relationship with your landlady.

~Vibe~
 

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Originally posted by gongxia649
any advice how to revert everything?
Apologize. You f*cked up. A real man admits when he's f*cked up. Explain that you didn't mean it that way, take her to dinner (nothing TOO expensive) and leave it at that. Or make her dinner. Do something. Just make it up to her, give her a good f*ck, and call it a night.

~Vibe~
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by Vibe
Apologize. You f*cked up. A real man admits when he's f*cked up. Explain that you didn't mean it that way, take her to dinner (nothing TOO expensive) and leave it at that. Or make her dinner. Do something. Just make it up to her, give her a good f*ck, and call it a night.

~Vibe~
Thanks. ill apologize. hopfully she understands.
 
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