Lame set-up

[MisterAl]

My friend is good to me. He tries to set me up with women he meets. He's married, older and very outgoing with a lot of connections, so he's a good resource. I don't like what happened this week though.

He met a woman at his gym. She's 28 and "hot" so he talked me up. He told me that she's interested in meeting new guys but wouldn't give her phone number to pass on to me. So he told her that I would come to the gym Wednesday night to meet her.

This means after work I would have to drive 15 miles to a gym where I do not have a membership to ask around for a woman by name because I don't know what she looks like. Then I would chat her up while she paces on a treadmill in her gym clothes so I can try to get the digits she wouldn't give my friend. I hate getting set up like this. I think I would look weak if this happened.

I told him I couldn't make it and that when I get her number we can meet for drinks sometime. Am I out of line? If it is to be believed, she is waiting for me to show up and introduce myself.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Hey, there's nothing wrong with a chick wanting a man to make the first move, so to speak. My problem is when chicks want a man to always make 2 moves to their 1, OR when chicks don't reciprocate at all (the princess/entitlement syndrome).

But having said all that, I think you are right about approaching the girl in this way comes off as weak (and needy, and supplicating, AND desperate).

Maybe a better idea would be to either let your friend broker the meating by inviting her to lunch with you guys some time. Or, you COULD offer the chick your number, OR you could simply offer to meet her for a coffee date or something across the street from the gym.

These were just a few ideas that came to mind. But the bottom line is YES, I think you're right about NOT wanting to meet this chick by entering her arena HOPING she likes you enough to grant you an audience. LOL

 

[Aaron B]

You are too focused on individual chicks.

You are right, that setup is out of the question. You will look very needy if you show up there looking for her. Now if you just happened to bump into her that would be perfect. But that's not going to happen.

Forget this chick. They are a dime a dozen. So what if she's hot. She can meet guys on her own, she doesn't need your friend. She was just being nice to him.

You need to meet women on your own. In public. Forget this guy trying to set you up, it will never happen. And if for some reason it did the woman would most likely be crazy.

 

[warpy]

it seems like your instincts are right, you felt that the 15mile trip would be pointless, well it is. find a gym near you and learn how to fish lol

 

[Latinoman]

My friend is good to me. He tries to set me up with women he meets. He's married, older and very outgoing with a lot of connections, so he's a good resource. I don't like what happened this week though.

He met a woman at his gym. She's 28 and "hot" so he talked me up. He told me that she's interested in meeting new guys but wouldn't give her phone number to pass on to me. So he told her that I would come to the gym Wednesday night to meet her.

This means after work I would have to drive 15 miles to a gym where I do not have a membership to ask around for a woman by name because I don't know what she looks like. Then I would chat her up while she paces on a treadmill in her gym clothes so I can try to get the digits she wouldn't give my friend. I hate getting set up like this. I think I would look weak if this happened.

I told him I couldn't make it and that when I get her number we can meet for drinks sometime. Am I out of line? If it is to be believed, she is waiting for me to show up and introduce myself.

The fact that you are relying on other men to find you women makes your game VERY weak.

 

[squirrels]

My friend is good to me. He tries to set me up with women he meets. He's married, older and very outgoing with a lot of connections, so he's a good resource. I don't like what happened this week though.

He met a woman at his gym. She's 28 and "hot" so he talked me up. He told me that she's interested in meeting new guys but wouldn't give her phone number to pass on to me. So he told her that I would come to the gym Wednesday night to meet her.

This means after work I would have to drive 15 miles to a gym where I do not have a membership to ask around for a woman by name because I don't know what she looks like. Then I would chat her up while she paces on a treadmill in her gym clothes so I can try to get the digits she wouldn't give my friend. I hate getting set up like this. I think I would look weak if this happened.

I told him I couldn't make it and that when I get her number we can meet for drinks sometime. Am I out of line? If it is to be believed, she is waiting for me to show up and introduce myself.

Go work out with your buddy. Meeting her is a pleasant side-effect. Don't just go up there to drool over some chick you heard about.

I'm trying to say this in the least derogatory way possible, but "get a life".