"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lame ass friends

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Yes this is another "My friends screwed me over" thread.

I just found out from an old friend of mine that my other friends have been going behind my back on almost everything. They have screwed me over more times than I can count and I always thought that it was just an unfortunate coincidence. I always had a suspicion but he confirmed it for me. :box:

Here is just one of the many things they did;
My friend was throwing a party at his place and he knew that a girl I was gaming was going to be there. Infact, he met her through me. So he intentionally didn't tell me about the party and told everyone else not to tell me about it so I wouldn't go. He ended up getting her drunk and banging her. :trouble:

So now I'm done with that social circle that I rolled with and I need a new one. Kind of better actually, everyone in that circle was an AFC except for one, who I'm still friends with. Ever since I found SS I started to dislike them and their negative attitudes anyways, I suppose they got jealous because I started pulling more girls than they were.

The only problem is they were good connections for parties and what not so I won't really be able to find as many parties as I used to. Meeting new people at school will be hard because I go to a community college. No one sticks around, everyone goes to their classes then goes home or what not, no communication in the school and the clubs suck.

Some old aquitances of mine are starting a band and want me to be in it since I play guitar, I'm thinking that will be a good way to get new friends but I don't want to get stuck with one social circle like I did last time.

Anyways, this is just kind of a rant. Any advice would be appreciated. I have contemplated bashing some heads in but they don't know that I know about this yet. Should I even confront these @$$ holes or should I stop talking to them all together? I've known them since junior high, just goes to show you no matter how long you've known someone, they can still stab you in the back.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You definitely do not need friends of that kind. You will be much better off alone than being with them. Don't bother kicking any ass either, it's not worth it. It'll start more **** than you can handle alone!

My opinion: join the band, see where it takes you. Make friends with new people, but watch your back. Remember, you are your own best-friend. Keep your previous-friends as "friends" too, you may want to use them in the future. Concentrate on your studies for now and make yourself a living.
 

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"Piss or get off the pot."

You didn't make your move thats why this guy was banging her. You make it sound like the girl had nothing to do with it. If she had sex with this guy then chances are you were perceived as the creepy stalker guy not him.

All of your friends didn't invite you to a party? All of them? Sorry but this has nothing to do with some bro's before ho's issue. You can't blame your not getting a girl on not getting invited to a party.

Get some friends that like you and you are right that diversifying your social circles is a good way to go - establish a social circle for each fun thing you do in life. (ie. sports, bars, school, clubs, bands, etc..)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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