"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ladies Night! Field Report....

Eyes_Of_Fire

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Oh man, what an awesome night!

So I'm sitting around last week and I decide to go through my phone list and call every girl that I hadn't talked to for a while. Supposedly I was set up for a date tonight, but the girl said she'd call, never called back :D Better for me!

So tonigt I walk down to a club a couple blocks from my crib and get the night started with a BL. The beer girl, whom I have asked for her number (back in my AFC days) and she declined to hand it out, asked me to come buy a beer from her, at a discounted price. I attribute her behavior to me not paying any attention to her the last few times I have been around (score 1 for me).

So I sit down, pulling a few swigs off my ice cold beer, when a HB7 (I'll call her #1) and her friend sit down next to me. Now I have to admit, I get pregame jitters, so I just keep it cool, checkin the scene. After a few minutes pass, I lean over (she is closed off to me and facing another direction) and whisper in her ear, "hi, what's your name?" She said something inaudible, but I just shook my head and yelled, "my name's Zach" Well she smiled and turned away. So I'm back to checkin the scene again, when a few minutes later I lean back over and yell, "so are you always this shy, or just when a cute guy is sitting next to you?" I got a big smile and some such reply when I calmly got up and went to the bar for a freshie.

I'm chillin' in the corner, watching a couple of prospects, trying to take a few things in when a pair of attractive ladies strolls over by me and begin to simply hang around. I can feel their looks scorching the back of my head! Meanwhile a gal that I've made aquaintances from the past walks up and gives me a hug.

I got up from the table to chat up a few fellas that I saw a few feet away, and the two girls checkin me out steal my table! I walked over, sat my fine ass down, and started talking to one of them. She handed me a cig, and we started chatting (now I'm thinking to myself, this was too easy! STANDARDS). Needless to say I whispered to her that I would see her around (disappointed look on her face...#2).

I walk around, trying to talk to every lady in the place, and a few fellas (just so it's not like I'm only there to get laid). I walk to the other side of the room when I spot this short pistol and immediately walk up to her, put my hand on her lower back and start talking to her. Turns out she is a triplett (what luck!...#3). Shes all over me, grabbing my hand, hugging me. Meanwhile a couple waitresses walk past (whom I chat up and am real flirty with) and one of them grabs my nipple....repeatedly! I guess they were feeling a DJ.

I go across the room, walk up to a girl, "Hey, your top is really pretty!" her: "Thank you!" me: "it reminds me of a bed spread I saw in Walmart!" I got a laugh out of this and so I simply walked away. Next, I'm watching the dance floor when #1 and her friend are suddenly next to me. She's rubbing her ass on my leg!! WTF? Am I a piece of meat? (well.....) So I grab her, and head to the dance floor. Talk to her a bit, flirt, rub my hands all over her body, then walk back to my seat.

#3 walks up, asks me why I dissappeared. She proceded to tell me that She saw me dancing with aother girl. I laughed in her face and told her she's the jealous type huh? I'm flattered.

I walk over to this HB8, who's wearing strappy shoes that the straps go past her ankles, "hey, I like your ankle bracelets!" she laughed and asked me for my name. I was surprised how forward she was and learned something from this. Next time, instead of giving her my name, I'll say something like, "What? Aren't we moving a little fast? I don't even know your name yet." or maybe, "and next you're gonna want my SSN?"

Well, turns out she's friends with #1. This bathroom attendant (well groomed) strolls up with two drinks in hand (AFC) gives them to Strappy, dances a little then gets cold shouldered (I asked him about this approach later and he told me that classy women sometimes need somethin...I laughed in his face).

To make a long story short :D I kept seeing #3 around and decided she was going to take me home. So I told her, "give me a ride home, I just live a few minutes away." She drove through Wendy's for me and took me home. Too bad she was with a couple of friends or...well who knows. But she was all together excited to give me her number and she made sure to keep groping me throughout the entire night.

Whether or not I decide to see her again, I had a great night talking to new people (lots of girls) and generally upping my social game.

Until next time...

Eyes_Of_Fire
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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lebRambo

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looks like you opened up a few prospects there. well done. :)
 

TonyTheTigerOI

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A decent FR, good work!

Youre outing reminds me of many of my nights out - a word of advice - stay in sets longer and try to strike an INTERESTING conversation after fluff talk/teasing. Especially a conversation regarding her feelings/opinions about a simple fact (the facets of her job, or her favorite pass time, ect).
 
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