Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Jay-X

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hi everyone. some months ago a "friend" of mine had gone with a girl i was almost in a relationship with (we had been flirtin' for months and we even kissed a couple of times) on a camping trip with some other mutual friends. guess what? my friends found them french kissing into their bungalow.

luckily, meanwhile, i had met a hb8 that had approached me while my girlfriend was away. after discovering what happened, i became really sad and depressed and i was miserable, until i found myself makin' out with the hb8 (everything happened extremely fast).

we've been together for the last 8 months and everything is wonderful to both of us. unluckily, i admit that i can't trust her. i know that she's extremely happy to be with me and so am i, but i can't trust her.

however, mine is an unusual jealousy: i found out that her best friend (who she had been in love with for an year, never telling him) is now madly in love with her (he's a major afc) and keeps texting her and telling her that she's a fool for being with me (he refers to me as "the pr1ck") and leaving on saturdays with me and my friends, since, in his opinion, we are just drunk jerks (that's not true, but whatever). now, since i'm a jealous guy and this AFC is in her class, i should be reeeeeeeeeally mad at him.
no! i'm perfectly comfortable with this! instead, i'm jealous of my best friends and i'm always worried that they are going to steal her from me. 2 days ago one of my best friends told my brother that i'm really lucky to be with this girl and that he hopes to find someone similar to her.... and when my brother told me, i was in rage. i became outrageously nervous and i couldn't help but thinkin' about him makin out with her.
also, every time one of my friends touches her, i'm like "hands off my girlfriend, b1tch" in a jokingly way (but i feel seriously threatened).

last saturday, i was really drunk and so was my girlfriend, and i started to ask her what she thought about my friends, one after another. she told me that they are really fun to be with, but she can't think about them any other than friends. i asked her who she would like to be with if she wasn't with me and she says that the only other guy that she can think of as a boyfriend could be my brother (he's dating one of her best friends), but she loves me as she couldn't love anybody else.

maybe it's not her that i don't trust, but my friends... i'm afraid that if one of them kisses her while they are alone, she could fall for him


plus, i'm not worried about losing her (i wouldn't mind TOO MUCH if she dumped me for some guy i don't know and i wouldn't mind at all if we left each other), but i'm extremely worried about losing my friends if something happened.

i know that it's almost impossible that this happened, but i can't help but think about this.

i think that what happened to me last year has been like a trauma and i won't ever trust my friends or any girl any longer. i don't know what to do, since this is maybe the only thing that is holding me back from being ultra-confident... my life is perfect, besides this muthafùckin jealousy. please help me, everyone


sorry if i stole too much time guys, but i seriously need help, since i'm becoming paranoid.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wow. Don Juans don't worry about that kind of crap, man. I'm with an HB8-8.5, and she's a mad attention *****. The first thing I determined the relationship was that I was with her for my happiness, not for hers.

And if anything interferes, I'll go fishing again for a new one.

I think you need to ease off the jealousy and let things roll. Guys will be guys, and if your girl is always drunk with your pimp ass friends, then yeah, ****'s gonna happen. Don't blame anyone. Don't get jealous. Give her a chance to explain herself, and make it clear what's going on. Tell her that she was out of hand, and that's the kind of **** you don't stand for.

As long as at the end of the night, she's coming home with you, I'd say that everything is alright. If you're more of a pathetic and jealous attention freak than she is, well then, you've gotta up your game, or just get out.

And for christs' sake, keep her on her toes... make sure she still has to earn yer love. Make sure that YOU are the reason she keeps her self in line. But if she's a nice girl, then don't push it. It's all situational.

give a little, take a lot. Rinse and repeat.
 

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i know i shouldn't care, but i don't know how not to care, man... that's right the problem... and what hurts the most is that she's one of the nicest girls i've ever met (she's been drunk just once, last weekend, and it was me that pushed her and my friends to drink too much, in order to have some fun... she's not a drunk or something, she's such a nice girl that before getting with me she had never gone beyond makin' out...) and she would NEVER EVER cheat on me... i'm just worried that my friends could try to kiss her and she could accept because of confusion and females' emotions, even though she doesn't like them at all
 

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Originally posted by Jay-X
i know i shouldn't care, but i don't know how not to care, man... that's right the problem... and what hurts the most is that she's one of the nicest girls i've ever met (she's been drunk just once, last weekend, and it was me that pushed her and my friends to drink too much, in order to have some fun... she's not a drunk or something, she's such a nice girl that before getting with me she had never gone beyond makin' out...) and she would NEVER EVER cheat on me... i'm just worried that my friends could try to kiss her and she could accept because of confusion and females' emotions, even though she doesn't like them at all
This may not click now, but it will be in your head, and one day you will be like damn I get it.

Never worry about a girl cheating on you, because if she is it isn't going to help, and if she isn't it isnt doing any good either.

If she cheats that makes her a hor, not you, so it's on her. You were alive the day before you met her and you will be alive the day after she leaves your life.

Relationships last as long as they were meant to last. When it's over you go find another experiences. It's was for it's time.

No man-up stop being a little bit#h, and crying one, and for goodness sake dont do stupid stuff like askiner her who else she wants to screw besides you.
 

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good point

Originally posted by Royal Elite
This may not click now, but it will be in your head, and one day you will be like damn I get it.

Never worry about a girl cheating on you, because if she is it isn't going to help, and if she isn't it isnt doing any good either.

If she cheats that makes her a hor, not you, so it's on her. You were alive the day before you met her and you will be alive the day after she leaves your life.

Relationships last as long as they were meant to last. When it's over you go find another experiences. It's was for it's time.

No man-up stop being a little bit#h, and crying one, and for goodness sake dont do stupid stuff like askiner her who else she wants to screw besides you.
I would definitely have to agree with Royal on this one. Don't worry about if shes' cheating on you-What will be-will be and there's nothing you can do to stop it-so try not to worry about it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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