"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lack of sexual experience

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Are women that repelled by a guy with no sexual experience? I've noticed from other threads that this seems to be the consensus around here. If that's the case, what's a virgin in his mid-twenties supposed to do?

And, no, I'm not paying for sex. Most other guys don't have to; I shouldn't have to either. I'm just as good as anybody else.

What if you're good looking? Would that cause a girl to look past the inexperience?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Surely dont let her know. Act like you are the freakin man. Cause you are. Dominate. Eventually it will be only natural from the experience you have acquired.
 

I-am-someone

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Redux is right.

I never told the girl I lost my virginity to I was a virgin, until just before we had sex. She was happy with it and took the lead a little bit, until I got the hang of it and I took back control. After the third time we had sex, I was already getting gossip that I was an animal in bed.

The point is to be the man and be honest. But if I could give any advice - don't tell the girl until you've already got her into you sexually.
 

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I'm not going to lie about it. If a girl asks, then I'll tell her. If she doesn't ask, then I won't volunteer any information. I'll just let her assume I'm not.

Of course, that's assuming I ever meet anybody. The future isn't looking too bright.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Vypros

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knglerxt said:
Of course, that's assuming I ever meet anybody. The future isn't looking too bright.
Why not?

I mean, what makes you think you're going to meet somebody if you continually do the same things and the same routines over and over? What I mean by that is that if you go an extended period of time doing your same daily routines and you don't meet anybody, TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT.

Join a club, take a class, get a part time job where you are constantly meeting new people (like a cashier), etc.

You gotta think outside the box, buddy, or you'll be condemned to being lonely for a long time. I'm not going to say "forever", because even your routines will EVENTUALLY bring someone along if you are patient. But the more things you get involved with, the more you increase your meeting potential.
 

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it's not your lack of sexual experiance that's repulsive..it's the insecurites that you hold onto and naturally raditate when you are around her because of it. One can be sexually inexperianced and sexually charged up as opposed to sexually inexperianced and insecure about it.Either way it shows as soon as you begin to feel that either the topic of sex or the actual activity of it arising comes up.It dosen't sound like you are even comfortable with your own sexuality..how can you possibly handle the emotions that arise between the two of you??
 

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organizedconfusion said:
it's not your lack of sexual experiance that's repulsive..it's the insecurites that you hold onto and naturally raditate when you are around her because of it. One can be sexually inexperianced and sexually charged up as opposed to sexually inexperianced and insecure about it.Either way it shows as soon as you begin to feel that either the topic of sex or the actual activity of it arising comes up.It dosen't sound like you are even comfortable with your own sexuality..how can you possibly handle the emotions that arise between the two of you??
I agree with you wholeheartedly. Most women find the idea that the man they are with is a virgin as ATTRACTIVE!
 
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