"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Lack of Sex - bad sign?!

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I've been seeing this girl for 2 months. We've had sex quite often at the beginning, but the last time I hit it was last Wednesday. That's EIGHT fvkking days since I've gotten it. Now, she says she wants more from the relationship than just sex, so I've been taking her out on dates and crap like that. Spending time with her outside of her bedroom is cool, but also annoying.

What do you guys think I should do? This may be her losing interest or maybe I'm not hitting it like I should.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Skel

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I'm curious, do you have any interest in this girl besides sex?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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This is the problem with going like gangbusters (sexually) at the beginning of a relationship. Yep, it's great but typically women can only keep up the pace for so long without feeling the need for something more. Face it, what do you do other than use her as a vessel?

Mixing up activities early on and capping it off with great sex tends to work best (at least with women who would like to stick around, if given the right reason). Can guys figure out what would make their women happy? Yep, but only some of the time. This is why it is advantageous to get involved with women who aren't just along for the ride; women who are willing to pull their own weight and suggest things to do.

Understand that this means that there may be a chance that you are going to be offered something that you could care less about. This is why it it important to find women who have similar interests as you besides wanting great sex.
 

Kings_royalty

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Sounds like she got tired of all the f*ing and wants to try something 'different', or at least chill out a bit.

Take a break from the $ex, or at least cut back some and have fun in other ways. Show her that you are a fun and interesting guy to be around, even without the $ex.

I would try to build up some sexual tension with her, get HER thinking and wanting the $ex.
 
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