"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Lack of interest

Amilz

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So this girl I've been texting since last week kind of flakes. Last Saturday messaged each other on a dating site throughout the day and then she gave me her number saying that she ended her membership on the site. Later that night I text her asking if she'd be interested in meeting.

She says maybe next weekend. We text each every day with boring straightforward conversations. I'm trying to avoid the texts. Anyways, I ask her if we are still up for Saturday on Thursday and she has all of these things she has to do and is not sure. She says maybe depending on somethings. Saturday, I hear nothing from her and so I nexted her. Today she texts me with a boring "how are you?" like we never once talked about meeting up. Also, she's been on the site she says she's cancelled. That's fine, I just thought it was funny she lied. She's almost 40 with a kid.

Looks like a good opportunity to practice what I'm learning here. She could be very busy but she could also make time for an hour to meet in a week.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Poon King

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Your problem (like many men here) is you have no rules.

This is why women dominate most committed romantic relationships by the way. Women actually have expectations for what they want in a relationship. For most men.. the only rule is "be hot and f*ck me". So any woman who gives a guy wood is elevated and can do no wrong.

Men need to change this attitude. If you don't like a woman who is boring and lies to you.. then why are you continuing to communicate with her? Why do you want to date her? Find someone who acts right.

Women are so picky because men are not. If men became more selective.. women would be forced to come down from their pedestal.
 

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Good points. I haven't responded to her and won't. She has a nice body but that's it.
 

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When she texted you "how are you doing?" Text her back "I'd be doing better if you came over with a bottle of wine". You'll either chase her off or.... you might get what you want. Either way you need to be okay with it.
 

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RangerMIke said:
When she texted you "how are you doing?" Text her back "I'd be doing better if you came over with a bottle of wine". You'll either chase her off or.... you might get what you want. Either way you need to be okay with it.
She is really reserved towards me. I'd rather just next.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Meisterman

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Wow. I was reading this thinking she's somewhere between 18-25. Can't believe 40 year old woman still pull this sh*t.
 

Amilz

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Meisterman said:
Wow. I was reading this thinking she's somewhere between 18-25. Can't believe 40 year old woman still pull this sh*t.
I can't either.
 

sylvester the cat

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Amilz said:
I ask her if we are still up for Saturday on Thursday and she has all of these things she has to do and is not sure. She says maybe depending on somethings. Saturday, I hear nothing from her

Today she texts me with a boring "how are you?" like we never once talked about meeting up.

Also, she's been on the site she says she's cancelled. That's fine, I just thought it was funny she lied.
she's not interested but hits you up when she needs some attention.

plus she's a liar.

delete.
 

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You guys apply PUA standards and PUA mentality to a woman in her 40s with a kid. This is obviously not going to work.
 

Amilz

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sylvester the cat said:
she's not interested but hits you up when she needs some attention.

plus she's a liar.

delete.
Yea, I'm not even worried about it. The old me would have been questioning myself or really irritated. Now I can see the pattern much better. One flake and they get passed on.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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