"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Lack of interest, sh*t test, etc.?

edger

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This was the situation the other night. I met some chick at a club Saturday night, we talked for a while and made out. At the end of the night when the club closed, she asked me if I wanted to come with her and her friends to an after party. I agreed to hang out for a little while, but we never went, plans changed, and she asked me if I wanted to go back to her place where she shares an apartment with 3 guys and one other girl. I agreed. Her and her female friend both share the same room..the other guys don't room with them. They were all at the club that night. So anyway, like I said, plans changed and she invited me back to her place. I was the only one with a car, so I figured we'd all hop in my car and head to her place.

Things get a little hairy on the way to her place. One of her guy friends starts being an obnoxious wise a$$ with me in my car(he seemed to be a bit drunk). I let it slide at first(I figured he was drunk and didn't so much realize his behavior, I don't know, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt), but no, he finally pushed his luck, and I was like "I was nice enough to let you come along for the ride", "you don't know who you're f**king with", "get out of my car."

The chick I hooked up with apologized for his behavior a few times, but I just shrugged it off saying it was no big deal, and that he seemed drunk, and didn't realize, that had he been sober, I would've handled things differently. So "mouth" as I'll call him, gets out of my car and everyone else gets out with him as well. After I told "mouth" to get out, I told all of them to get out and take a taxi back, and that we(me and the chick) would meet them there, because they were all drunk and couldn't give me the right directions to their apartment. The last thing I was gonna do was drive around the whole f**kin' night trying to follow directions from a bunch of drunks who didn't know where the f**k they were going. By the way, she said "mouth" seemed jealous that we hooked up, that's also what I think may have been the case too possibly. I think they both f**ked before, or who know's, maybe are still f**king, because on the way out of the club, he made a remark to her about how he f**ed her. She didn't say anything to that. Anyway, if jealousy was in fact the cause of his behavior in my car, then it was a poor AFC reflection on him if anything.

All this stuff so far isn't all that important, but I figure I'll just recap the progression of the night to the most important part which I'm about to lay out now.

So, it's just us two, we agree to go back to my place, nearly an hour away. On the way back to my place, during our conversation, she blurts out, "we'll never see each other again". She said it about TWICE that night. The first time she said it, I'm not sure if it was in the club or not, but the second time she said it, it was definitely in my car. The second time she said it, I nonchalantly was like "what do you mean?", and she was like "I mean exactly what I said", something very similar to that, if not, that.

My interpretation is that she was being straight up and is telling me she has no intentions of ever hanging out again, has no interest whether for f**k buddy status with me, or more. But I'm a bit thrown off here, so I'm asking for some solid, sound imput, of course from those who know what the f**k they're talking about. I personally could care less if she doesn't want me for a relationship, but it would be nice to keep her as a f**k buddy, as she's one attractive piece of a**.

Anyway we get back to my house and f**k. F**k for about an hour and a half, maybe more, I don't remember. We sleep til about 3pm in the afternoon, wake up and watch TV in my bed for 2 hours, before I drop her off at the train station to catch the train back to her apartment. Before she got out of my car she said "hit me up", and she got out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Could be one of those things chicks do.

She's basically saying, "I know you're a guy and you probably want to hit it and quit it. I acknowledge that fact. I want you to call me the next day but I'm going to pretend that I don't care. Now lets FUKK".

SO I assume you have her # ? If so, give it a week and cal her up. I'll bet she's down for some more action.
 

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STR8UP said:
Could be one of those things chicks do.

She's basically saying, "I know you're a guy and you probably want to hit it and quit it. I acknowledge that fact. I want you to call me the next day but I'm going to pretend that I don't care. Now lets FUKK".

SO I assume you have her # ? If so, give it a week and cal her up. I'll bet she's down for some more action.
Yea, I have her #. She has mine too.
 

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edger said:
This was the situation the other night. I met some chick at a club Saturday night, we talked for a while and made out. At the end of the night when the club closed, she asked me if I wanted to come with her and her friends to an after party. I agreed to hang out for a little while, but we never went, plans changed, and she asked me if I wanted to go back to her place where she shares an apartment with 3 guys and one other girl. I agreed. Her and her female friend both share the same room..the other guys don't room with them. They were all at the club that night. So anyway, like I said, plans changed and she invited me back to her place. I was the only one with a car, so I figured we'd all hop in my car and head to her place.

Things get a little hairy on the way to her place. One of her guy friends starts being an obnoxious wise a$$ with me in my car(he seemed to be a bit drunk). I let it slide at first(I figured he was drunk and didn't so much realize his behavior, I don't know, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt), but no, he finally pushed his luck, and I was like "I was nice enough to let you come along for the ride", "you don't know who you're f**king with", "get out of my car."

The chick I hooked up with apologized for his behavior a few times, but I just shrugged it off saying it was no big deal, and that he seemed drunk, and didn't realize, that had he been sober, I would've handled things differently. So "mouth" as I'll call him, gets out of my car and everyone else gets out with him as well. After I told "mouth" to get out, I told all of them to get out and take a taxi back, and that we(me and the chick) would meet them there, because they were all drunk and couldn't give me the right directions to their apartment. The last thing I was gonna do was drive around the whole f**kin' night trying to follow directions from a bunch of drunks who didn't know where the f**k they were going. By the way, she said "mouth" seemed jealous that we hooked up, that's also what I think may have been the case too possibly. I think they both f**ked before, or who know's, maybe are still f**king, because on the way out of the club, he made a remark to her about how he f**ed her. She didn't say anything to that. Anyway, if jealousy was in fact the cause of his behavior in my car, then it was a poor AFC reflection on him if anything.

All this stuff so far isn't all that important, but I figure I'll just recap the progression of the night to the most important part which I'm about to lay out now.

So, it's just us two, we agree to go back to my place, nearly an hour away. On the way back to my place, during our conversation, she blurts out, "we'll never see each other again". She said it about TWICE that night. The first time she said it, I'm not sure if it was in the club or not, but the second time she said it, it was definitely in my car. The second time she said it, I nonchalantly was like "what do you mean?", and she was like "I mean exactly what I said", something very similar to that, if not, that.

My interpretation is that she was being straight up and is telling me she has no intentions of ever hanging out again, has no interest whether for f**k buddy status with me, or more. But I'm a bit thrown off here, so I'm asking for some solid, sound imput, of course from those who know what the f**k they're talking about. I personally could care less if she doesn't want me for a relationship, but it would be nice to keep her as a f**k buddy, as she's one attractive piece of a**.

Anyway we get back to my house and f**k. F**k for about an hour and a half, maybe more, I don't remember. We sleep til about 3pm in the afternoon, wake up and watch TV in my bed for 2 hours, before I drop her off at the train station to catch the train back to her apartment. Before she got out of my car she said "hit me up", and she got out.
whats the problem?!

I dont see one.
 
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