"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Even the legendary seducer and Venusian artist Giacomo Casanova was owned by a girl.

This 17 year old girl told Casanova when they first met, that she had wanted to rent his room advertisement so she could ruin him and that given any chance she still would ruin him.
He could not keep away from her.

The moment you become desperate to win over one particular woman, you can lose the very composure and charm that made you attractive in the first place.

Even Casanova needed reminding!


There's a lesson there that goes beyond Casanova:

  • Attraction can override common sense.
  • Scarcity and uncertainty can intensify desire.
  • The more someone withdraws, the more tempting winning them over can become.
    Knowing you're making a mistake doesn't necessarily stop you making it.

    He was high in soceity, intelligent and like i say a master of seducing, one of the best ever, but this girls delicacy, her smile, her ass, he could not keep away, even though he knew she would ruin him. She was very sly and was helped by her female family members, just as he was rid of her, she would appear and play him, his poison.




 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I guess everyone has heard of Casanova but I wasnt familiar with this particular girl. It was an interesting story and like you said, a reminder. Sometimes even the best seducers can make basic mistakes.

From Google: "Did casanova got played by a Seventeen year old girl?"

"Yes, Giacomo Casanova was famously outsmarted, manipulated, and humiliated by a 17-year-old girl named Marianne de Charpillon.
In 1763, an aging Casanova (then 38 years old) traveled to London, where he met Charpillon, a young French-Swiss courtesan. Despite his legendary reputation as an inescapable seducer, she completely turned the tables on him:

• The Financial Fleece: Living with her mother and aunts, Charpillon operated as part of a highly calculated family scheme. They specialized in draining the fortunes of wealthy men. She teased Casanova relentlessly, extracting expensive gifts and large sums of money while continuously denying him any sexual favors.

• The Psychological Game: Whenever Casanova grew frustrated and tried to leave, she would flirt and reel him back in with empty promises of affection.

• The Legal Trap: After weeks of being driven to near-madness by her rejection, a desperate Casanova attempted to use force, which she anticipated. She promptly had him arrested by the British authorities.

Casanova was so deeply shaken by how thoroughly she played him that he famously wrote in his memoirs, "It was on that fatal day... that I began to die." Historians note that the Charpillon affair severely shattered his youthful confidence, marking the definitive downward spiral of his life as a successful libertine."
 

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  • Scarcity and uncertainty can intensify desire.
  • The more someone withdraws, the more tempting winning them over can become.
    Knowing you're making a mistake doesn't necessarily stop you making it.
I've been thinking about this recently. It's a weird dynamic. Honestly, I don't think it's about a particular woman.

It's about wanting something you can't have and the ego won't let go. Throwing every trick in your book at this seemingly uncrackable problem without results feeds the preoccupation.

The scarcity lets you imagination run wild, constructing a world that doesn't exist. Running hypothetical simulations in your head further committing you to an utter bs fantasy.

It's not even about sex, I fell into this trap while being in sexually active relationships with women who were nothing but good to me.

It's about feeding the ego.
 
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