L word slipped out...little help?

[DJ in Progress]

So some background info: After coming to Sosuave over a year ago and lifting weights for over a year i have gained confidence (and some definite muscle mass! ) around women and ended up getting a hot girls number in my gym sauna at my university. Long story short she had a boyfriend (who was a junior in high school, she is a freshman, 18, and i am a junior, 21) but we hung out and had sex for about a month while she was with him ( she had been w him for 9 months), she ended up dumping him for me and we have been in a relationship for a little over a month.

Anyway i have developed feelings for her, and have tried very hard to avoid the L word but this morning as she was about to leave to go home for a couple days we were kissing and stuff and i let slip "i love you" :nono: and immediately followed up with a "whoops im so sorry it just slipped out" she said she hadnt noticed til i said whoops, but that its too early for her to say that, which is understandable, and that she would "forget" about it and wait for a better time for me to say it. Fvck i was embarrassed, i didnt even think about saying it before i did, just completely slipped out, and this is the first girl i ever said that to...:cuss:

I guess what im asking is how to proceed from here? Im thinking the best course of action is to just continue on like it never happened and wait for her to say it and not say it again til she does.

What are you guys thoughts on the situation?

 

[CaptainJ]

She probably understands you got caught up in the moment, and that you don't actually love her. Just act like it never happened and things will be fine.

 

[slaog]

Don't make it into a big deal. When the subject comes up just make it seem normal. If she sees you making a big deal out of it she'll think it's a big deal and she'll know you're worried about saying it and that'll make you seem AFC.

 

[TheDoctor]

Yo Progress, just a word to the wise before you go falling in love and all.......she cheated on her boyfriend with you! She will cheat on you with another! You have de-valued yourself in her eyes simply because you have chosen to make her ( a cheater) your girlfriend. This will come back to bight you in the a$$.

You have been forewarned.

 

[russell]

Yo Progress, just a word to the wise before you go falling in love and all.......she cheated on her boyfriend with you! She will cheat on you with another! You have de-valued yourself in her eyes simply because you have chosen to make her ( a cheater) your girlfriend. This will come back to bight you in the a$$.

You have been forewarned.

i agree with this, but not entirely. i think you should be very cautious

don't worry about the i love you thing! just act like it was a friendly i love you, not a serious one. does that make sense? just a joking kind of love

 

[randalll]

i agree with this, but not entirely. i think you should be very cautious

don't worry about the i love you thing! just act like it was a friendly i love you, not a serious one. does that make sense? just a joking kind of love

damn right, this happened to me last summer.
could have got with a similar girl recently but passed cos i don't need the drama!

yeah ^^, just laugh it off as it's not a big deal

 

[dmatter]

HAHAH YOUR FCKED! no not really like everyone else said, keep doing what you were doing and youll be fine.

 

[DJ in Progress]

trust me im watching out for cheating, i figure i have until she goes back home for the summer before i have to worry too much ha ha thats another reason im kinda pissed that i said the L word, im having mixed emotions for this girl and am trying to not get too attached for just the fact that i half expect her to cheat when she moves home for the summer, she'll be 1.5 hrs away and near her ex.

But im turning 21 in a day so that opens up some new possibilities for me to keep my options open!

 

[DonGorgon]

Always go into relationships expecting to be cheated on cause there is an 90% chance it will happen... dont focus on it.. focus on doing what you need to do to get all the sex you want as often as possible.. Every mans goal is to have sex with as many women as possible including yours and she will F some of those men for any reason she choses.

Oh and um about the love thing.. you messed up big time and gave her all the power.. women dont want all the power cause then they cant respect you and sexual attraction gores hand in hand with respect.

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

start dating other girls and reduce your focus on her. Let her com to you cause is you can act like you dont love her even though you said it you may be able to turn the tables as she tries to find out why you are not acting all weak and whipped..

 

[r0cky]

The part that made you look like a sissy was when you said "whoops it slipped out"
dont be such a pansy. You were better off not saying anything, but now you will be in her eyes a lil girl who cant control her thoughts and feelings.
Next time think before you talk. And never make excuses for the things you say, unless they are hurtful to someone.

 

[usscrum]

Why anyone would ever consider being in a relationship with a girl who cheated on their previous BF with them is beyond me.

 

[ohsnap]

trust me im watching out for cheating,

This is not how relationships are supposed to be. There's supposed to be an element of TRUST there, not suspicion. Keep her as a f-buddy... but making her your gf? Please...

 

[DJ in Progress]

Well to answer a few questions:
1) To make a girl who cheated my girlfriend: its the second girlfriend that ive ever had, the first was the senior year of highschool and it lasted for 2 months, i really dont care how long it lasts but i need the experience and the sex is good and easy!
2) Having a hot girlfriend with me at times draws alot more interest to me from other girls, i have gotten many more looks from attractive girls ever since especially at the gym, which is my favorite hunting ground! ive talked to many more girls with ease so all in all im happy.

And if something happens, oh well i had a good time and have learned quite a bit even in the short time i have been with her.

 

[I'm in the Mood]

lol the "L" word. thats pretty funny.