Kubler Ross model - five stages of grief in break up

[JohnyTheArrow]

The Kübler-Ross model, or the five stages of grief, is a series of emotional stages experienced when faced with impending death or death of someone. The five stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

The model was first introduced by Swiss Psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying, and was inspired by her work with terminally ill patients.[1]

This model is universal and it fits what you go through after break up

Grieving a break-up

Denial

The person left behind is unable to admit that the relationship is really over. They may continue to call the former partner even though that person wants to be left alone. Instead they may deny their feelings and not admit that they are upset about it at all.

Anger

The partner left behind may feel angry for the pain the leaving partner causes them. The partner left also might blame himself/herself.

Bargaining

After the anger stage, the one left behind may plead with their former partner by promising that whatever caused the breakup will never happen again. Example: “I can change. Please give me a chance."

Depression

Next, the person might feel discouraged that his or her bargaining plea did not convince the former partner to stay. This may send the person into depression causing disruption to life functions.

Acceptance

Moving on from the situation and the person is the last stage. The partner left behind accepts that the relationship is over and begins to move forward with his or her life. She or he may not be completely over the situation but is weary of going back and forth, so much so that they can accept the separation as reality.[4]

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Do you recognize yourself ?

 

[Who Dares Win]

Funny when my gf left me I moved from denial to acceptance skipping the other steps, then after 2 months I saw her dancing with an other guy and went back to anger then to it moved how its written despite the bargaining phase was more an attempt to bvllsh1t her again and the depression was only in late evening in early morning...still the anger part was the most strong one.

 

[Moroder]

Kübler-Ross delivers a valid model, especially for some LTRs, but you cannot expect it to be strictly linear. Nor should you expect the stages to be clearly separated. Anger, denial and bargaining, for instance, are often mixed up.