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Krynnster's Guide to Internet Romance - #3

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Chapter Three – Getting the Digits

Misconception #3: "online seduction is a lengthy process".

This is wrong! If you spend too much time online with a lady you will become her virtual pen pal and you don't want that!

The truth is that if you get a reply to your first email it means that the woman liked it, probably read through your ad and is VERY interested to find more about you. The email you will get will have a lot of questions and you have to capitalize on her high interest level and move things forward. Quickly.

The mindset you should have is this: the Internet personals are nothing but a pool of potential phone numbers and first dates. The more you get, the better your chances to find what you want so don't waste your time on virtual romance!. You need to get her phone number and get her on a date as soon as possible. If you can't get the digits after the third or fourth email, chances are you will never get it!

You want to know how to get the digits? Ah... but it's so simple...

After you answer her questions in the second email, you end it with a sentence like this:

"Lisa, how about we have a little chat sometime?"

She will most likely reply with: "I'd love to talk to you sometime" but will probably not give you her phone number (yes... they like to play games... who can blame them?).

It's time for you to get cute. End your next email with:

"I'd like to talk to you but you'll have to help me out by filling in the blanks... (xxx) xxx-xxxx"

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Chapter Four – The First Phone Call

I don't think there are any misconceptions here so let's make it very clear: the purpose of the first phone call is to close for a date.

Call her a day or two after getting her number. Don't play the 4 day game here... you've never met her and you don't know if you want her so there's no point in delaying the process. Call during the evening but not too late (8pm works fine).

If someone answers the phone, ask to speak with her (don't assume she's the one picking up the phone). Then introduce yourself ("Hi, this is K"), make minimal small talk and proceed with the close. You want to shoot for a short, casual date. Lunch works best and so does "meeting for coffee or drinks after work". The point is that you have to make sure you won't get stuck if SweetCherry turns out to be a BitterLemon.

If you get the machine, leave a short message: "Hi Lisa! This is K! I wanted to talk to you but you're not there, so why don't you give me a call when you come back? My phone number is xxx-xxxx. Talk to you soon.".

Of course, DON’T call again!
If you don't hear back from her within a week, chances are she changed her mind about you. Bummer... FOR HER!
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Chapter Five – The First Date

When you finally meet her you will immediately know if there's a chance or not. If there is, practice your DJ skills and set up a longer, more open-ended second date. If there is no chance in hell you will want this lady – be courteous and show her a good time nevertheless. After all, she made the same effort as you did and deserves to be treated respectfully. At the end of the date tell her that she's a very nice girl but not really what you're looking for and wish her luck in finding Mr. Right.
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I hope this helps!

K.



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Originally posted by Krynnster:
Chapter Three – Getting the Digits


The mindset you should have is this: the Internet personals are nothing but a pool of potential phone numbers and first dates. The more you get, the better your chances to find what you want so don't waste your time on virtual romance!.


My advice would be not to have too high of expectations with Internet personals. It should not replace your search in the real world for women.

The way I see it, meeting the right women is about increasing your opportunities. The Internet personals does increase opportunities, but it doensn't guarantee success...

I am doing both so far and am still searching...



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