Krynnster
Senior Don Juan
Hi all,
This is something I prepared a while ago with some strategies and tips about the Internet personals. It's very long so I broke it into several articles.
I hope you will find it helpful.
Chapter 1 – The Ad
Misconception #1: "the most important thing in getting women on the 'net is an amazingly original, incredibly well written personal ad"
Why is this a misconception?
For starters, we all know that in the real world women will usually not pick up guys so it is fair to assume that this mentality extends to the virtual world as well. Not less important is the fact that there are many more men looking on the 'net than women. Many women I talked to have told me that during the first weekend after they placed their ad they got about a hundred (yes, HUNDRED) replies. With that volume of emails to browse and weed through, most women don't really have the time to browse men's ads! They assume (and rightfully so) that all the men worth contacting have already sent them a reply.
Another thing worth mentioning here is something I learned from selling software: the best leads are the ones you have made the first contact with, not the ones that found you by "shopping around"! If you can create interest in a woman and have her reply to your message, there are much better chances this will develop to something. This is not some lady who browsed your ad and replied out of boredom, this is a lady that wants to get to know you.
Okay, so I'm not trying to tell you that your ad is totally unimportant, but it's definitely not the most important thing. It should be simple, honest, clean (of spelling and grammar mistake as well as bad language) and straight to the point. Of course, sense of humor doesn't hurt... but don't spice it up too much or you'll risk scaring people away. Oh... and don't give away your life story and most intimate desires... leave A LOT to the imagination.
Remember: the purpose of your ad is to provide some basic information about you to the women you will write to. You can put your picture if you want but from my personal experience I found that it doesn't really affect the number of replies.
Here's the ad I placed in SocialNet:
Wouldn't it be surprisingly wonderful for you to meet a very special man on the Internet? I know you might be skeptical but please read on. I'm intelligent, direct, very honest and a little goofballish (in a positive way... or so people say). I have a somewhat sarcastic sense of humor but I know when to restrain myself. I like to talk and love to listen to other people and usually don't have problems making friends. I look good (most people are able to look at me without throwing up) and I have great looking eyes (thanks mom). I work with computers but I like to spend my time with people. Sounds interesting? Here's what I'm looking for: a woman (not a girl) in her twenties, who is intelligent, honest, mature, attractive and who doesn't smoke. I'm looking for someone with a great sense of humor (sarcasm preferred), who can talk about anything and everything, who likes to have fun both outdoors and indoors and who is independent yet not afraid to let someone into her life and share her emotions. If this sounds like you then please reply and we'll take it from there.
As you can see, some basic information about me and what I'm looking for with the occasional smart-ass remark (after all, I can't deny who I am
). Women who replied to my ad wrote that they liked it because it seemed that I have a pretty good idea of what I was looking for...
Coming up next: "Chapter 2 - Your First Email"...
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Decent people don't use their signatures for promotional purposes. To learn more, visit my web site at http://krynnster.tripod.com .
This is something I prepared a while ago with some strategies and tips about the Internet personals. It's very long so I broke it into several articles.
I hope you will find it helpful.
Chapter 1 – The Ad
Misconception #1: "the most important thing in getting women on the 'net is an amazingly original, incredibly well written personal ad"
Why is this a misconception?
For starters, we all know that in the real world women will usually not pick up guys so it is fair to assume that this mentality extends to the virtual world as well. Not less important is the fact that there are many more men looking on the 'net than women. Many women I talked to have told me that during the first weekend after they placed their ad they got about a hundred (yes, HUNDRED) replies. With that volume of emails to browse and weed through, most women don't really have the time to browse men's ads! They assume (and rightfully so) that all the men worth contacting have already sent them a reply.
Another thing worth mentioning here is something I learned from selling software: the best leads are the ones you have made the first contact with, not the ones that found you by "shopping around"! If you can create interest in a woman and have her reply to your message, there are much better chances this will develop to something. This is not some lady who browsed your ad and replied out of boredom, this is a lady that wants to get to know you.
Okay, so I'm not trying to tell you that your ad is totally unimportant, but it's definitely not the most important thing. It should be simple, honest, clean (of spelling and grammar mistake as well as bad language) and straight to the point. Of course, sense of humor doesn't hurt... but don't spice it up too much or you'll risk scaring people away. Oh... and don't give away your life story and most intimate desires... leave A LOT to the imagination.
Remember: the purpose of your ad is to provide some basic information about you to the women you will write to. You can put your picture if you want but from my personal experience I found that it doesn't really affect the number of replies.
Here's the ad I placed in SocialNet:
Wouldn't it be surprisingly wonderful for you to meet a very special man on the Internet? I know you might be skeptical but please read on. I'm intelligent, direct, very honest and a little goofballish (in a positive way... or so people say). I have a somewhat sarcastic sense of humor but I know when to restrain myself. I like to talk and love to listen to other people and usually don't have problems making friends. I look good (most people are able to look at me without throwing up) and I have great looking eyes (thanks mom). I work with computers but I like to spend my time with people. Sounds interesting? Here's what I'm looking for: a woman (not a girl) in her twenties, who is intelligent, honest, mature, attractive and who doesn't smoke. I'm looking for someone with a great sense of humor (sarcasm preferred), who can talk about anything and everything, who likes to have fun both outdoors and indoors and who is independent yet not afraid to let someone into her life and share her emotions. If this sounds like you then please reply and we'll take it from there.
As you can see, some basic information about me and what I'm looking for with the occasional smart-ass remark (after all, I can't deny who I am
Coming up next: "Chapter 2 - Your First Email"...
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Decent people don't use their signatures for promotional purposes. To learn more, visit my web site at http://krynnster.tripod.com .
