Kissing Sticking Point

[Crux]

This is difficult for me to admit, but I have more anxiety kissing a girl than approaching a girl (which isn't hard for me).

I'm going to be very straight-forward, I lack experience in the kissing department (I've only kissed one girl).

I believe it's both a kissing confidence and competence issue. I don't really know HOW to do it, and I don't feel very confident doing it.

Here's the scenario (and it has happened way too many times). The girl I had just met an hour or so earlier was back at my house with me. Kino was on, attraction was ace. I moved into Comfort, hand-holding, knee compliance. I knew THEN that I could have kissed her. I know exactly how to transition into kissing (multiple ways actually, that isn't the issue).

I ended up driving her home and I did the cheek kiss routine (point to your cheek, say "kiss goodnight"). She did it, twice. Anyways, This happens to me all the time. Attraction to me is like second nature now, it's so ****ing easy to get. I feel like the further I go (Attract to Comfort to Seduction) I have less experience (which would make sense as when you are learning this **** you play attraction the most).

Ideas, input, anything ?

 

[Damian]

Haha. I remember when I had that same sticking point. A kiss transition should only be a matter of moving your head a few centimeters. My old strategy was to simply wait for a good movement, get close, and DO IT. Caveman your way into the kissing phase. If you want to learn how to kiss, do a little reading online. One of the best pieces of advice I can give you is to be soft and gentle. Don't do the tongue-spear into the back of her mouth. That's distasteful and gross. Kissing is a soft activity. Just get it started and do what comes to you. Don't get caught up on analyzing the do's and don'ts. Seems like you know the MM way of doing things. It's a strong method, but don't simply rely on the theory itself. Remember that fear is no object, and plow on ahead. The more you experiment, the more you will improve.

-Damian

 

[Crux]

bump.

 

[Climax]

Some helpful tips...

Crux: Every person goes through your stage in their lives... and yes, its not a nice stage to go through... But you know what? The more time you waste by NOT improving yourself, the more time you will lose... Think about it... you WILL need to start kissing girls more and more at SOME stage, right? So why not sooner rather than later? And maybe you wont be the best kisser they have kissed the few first times you kiss a girl... But who cares? Firstly, I doubt they will judge you just based on the way you kiss... and secondly, even if they are stupid and immature and Do judge you by the way u kiss, then you can say to yourself "okay, that’s her gone, but look, I got more experience now, i got more confidence now.... and the next girl I kiss will be impressed..."

There are many women out there, so use some to GET to the point where you want to be at.. and that point is to be able to kiss them and touch them and at a later stage, even have sex with them and leaving them satisfied and pleasured. Kissing, fingering, muffing, having sex... all these things are over rated and really aren’t hard to do... All women are different... there is no set way to finger a woman, or a set way to have sex with her.... Every woman is different in her own way, and the basics of having sex comes naturally to us, the tricky part is finding out what feels good for THAT specific girl that you are with, and most of the time they will tell you what they prefer and what they do not prefer.

But back onto the main topic... Lets use YOUR scenario here.... You have a girl at your house and you are alone... You are both touching each other and getting close.... She is probably giving you obvious signs that she is into you... There is most probably some flirting and eye contact going on(which I am sure you try and avoid because u are scared of "the kiss") .. anyways, if you are in that situation, then just seriously, don’t think... just look at her, hold her hand, pull her closer to you while leaning forward towards her, and kiss her... If you are unsure of what to do, then just start kissing slowly (no tongue yet), and then slowly progress... stick your tongue out a bit and try and touch her tongue with your tongue... then softly and slowly just move your tongue around, as she should be doing as well... and then just follow her moves.... do what she does to you.... maybe suck very softly on her bottom (or top, but I prefer bottom) lip, and while you are doing all this, move your hands around her body... then after a few minutes of kissing start moving your hands over her breasts (best done in a slow up/down or circle motion)... For the 1st kiss rather keep your hands away from her pvssy... But feel free to squeeze her ass etc.

So overall:

1) Don’t think

2) Kiss her and just go with the flow

3) Be calm (If you are nervous and tense, it will reflect on you in a bad way)

4) Be confident in yourself! (She is at YOUR house, she is touching YOU, she obviously wants YOU, obviously you are doing something right, and obviously she wants you, so don’t worry about it, just kiss her, she is waiting for you to do it) - And just to add to that, though they might not act like it, women often are just waiting for us guys to make a move on them... and if they are kept waiting too long, it might turn them off you full stop, so don’t keep her waiting too long, she is waiting for you, all you need to do is lean forward and kiss her!

5) Don’t see this ONE time as "life or death" or something like "oh my god, if I f*ck this up, its the end of the world" ... Rather see it as "okay, we are here, we both want each other, if I’m not as good as I would like to be then fine, at least I’m getting practice.. and she probably wont tell me to ****off just because I'm not THAT experienced YET! Better yet, that one kiss will probably lead to many more, and that means a lot more practice, so even if things don’t work out with this ONE girl, I will still leave with experience, confidence, and the willpower to practice even more.

Anyways, don’t want to make this reply TOO long... But I hope this helped you

Happy Kissing!!


Laterz...

 

[Tomatoes]

Its not an easy step to take. For some reason the thought of making out seems hard...its really not. Plus you cant really be "bad" at it. Everyone makes out a little diffrent. Some girls throw their tongue down your throat. Others barely use it. GO by everything above as ~ªêQµïTª$~ gives good advice. But also look at it this way....What makes her the expert kiss judge? How do you know shes not thinking like you? Just get in their mate....

Do that or follow my route when i used to be scared of doing it.... Light kino. Heavy Kino. Start rubbing her pvssy and give her a light finger. Then kiss her. Even if you suck she wont care/notice if you are pleasuring her. I did that to the first 3 girls i ever got with. BEFORE i kissed them.

 

[redbyte]

You think you got it bad.
I'm 17. Never kissed a girl. Never had a girlfriend.

But I've noticed over the past few months I've personally advanced from where I used to be. Ie. Now I've hugged a girl, been on a one on one date, asked successfully a girl to the Prom, had girls calling me, girls hitting on me etc. So shouldn't be too long before I get my first kiss. Would be good to get it before I'm 18 (June).

 

[Crux]

ty for the help, anyone / anything else?