"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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kissing on the first date?

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My question or idea I'd like to bring to everyone's attention...

Kissing on the first date? Is it a good idea or not.

Personally I like to wait until the second date. I like to do this for a few reasons. One, it makes me more of a challenge, in her eyes I become "hard to get." Two, it doesn't "lock me into" a girl. I like having options when it comes to women and if i go off kissing every single woman on the first date without her earning a second date it makes it harder to shake loose the girl if I decide I'm not attracted to her later on for whatever reason. I usually end first dates with a safe peck on the cheek or maybe a small kiss on the lips.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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what do you mean shake loose.....just be a man....stop calling!

so let me get this right, if she went to kiss you or even invite you in for a **** you would play hard to get...ha ha!
 
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A lot of women prefer to be kissed on a first date (assuming she's still attracted at the end of it... lol). If you want to do it, go for it. If you don't, don't bother. Stop caring about what THEY think and worry about what YOU think.
 
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I think it all depends on how the date went. If it just feels right to kiss her, then kiss her. Don't let the moment go, embrace it. You just have to take it as it goes you know. Sometimes the kiss will make her want you more, sometimes it will make all the sparks go out. While other times the anticipation of the kiss can keep things moving along, while not kissing her could have ruined your chances. It just depends on the situation and how you feel at the time. Generally i don't really kiss on the first date, but i have before. So you know, it just all depends on the situation and your instincts.
 
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Brando SC said:
If it just feels right to kiss her, then kiss her. Don't let the moment go, embrace it. You just have to take it as it goes you know. Sometimes the kiss will make her want you more, sometimes it will make all the sparks go out. While other times the anticipation of the kiss can keep things moving along, while not kissing her could have ruined your chances. It just depends on the situation and how you feel at the time.
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BINGO! Brando you seem to have picked up alot for being here only a month. Just get the first one out of the way and tease her from there on out.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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From the first time you meet them you should try and go for the first kiss, the first kiss is like the gauge to see how interested in you she is.

Like the other guy said there is a chance you don't even have an attraction. In every set I've started to always try and kiss within the first hour of meeting, because waiting 3 meetings with a girl is just a waste of time when in the end you might have no more attraction.

Kissing is really not a big deal at all.
 
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Play it by ear

If she's not giving the signs don't. If she is do. However, if you find the date going nowhere, end it or don't ask her for a second date. At this point all you can do is make the threat she could lose you.
 
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Espi said:
I ALWAYS get a kiss on the first date...

If the IOI level is high and there's obvious sexual tension, I'll kiss her in the middle of a meal or a coffee...

If the IOI level isn't high enough or she's kind of reserved, I wait till the end of the date, point to my cheek, and say, "Kiss goodbye."
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You give good tips man. You don't post often, more like on a periodic basis, why?
 
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