That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Vypros said:
Scought said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girls don't know what to expect. If you talk to your average girl she will probably tell you some stupid rules such as:knglerxt said:
umm your 25 years old and you have yet to meet women?? were you sheltered through out your life or something??!!knglerxt said:
DJDamage said:
Hey, I'm with you on this one. I don't understand how people get get intimate with someone they don't share a real connection with. A kiss is not "just a kiss". I don't kiss unless I really, truly like a girl, and that takes time.knglerxt said:
I suggest that you go and read the DJ Bible, you need to create a new life and a new reality because sorry to say yours currently suck.knglerxt said:
knglerxt said:
. Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Almost everything in life and human interaction deals with your state of mind. Understand that some guys come into this game with the motive and mindset of one night stands and sex with no attatchments. When that is your MOTIVE for interacting with the opposite sex, getting very intimate on the first date does not seem that bad; you got exactly what you set your mind to do, therefore, it does not eat away at you. In the world of success and failure that man was a success because he achieved what he set out to do.knglerxt said:
Would you be a ******* man?knglerxt said:
Hey, way to make a blanket statement about everyone on here.sparky0000 said:
^^agreeScought said:Hey, way to make a blanket statement about everyone on here.
Have we met? No, I don't believe so. How about you don't act elitist because you can't get a girl to hold your hand.
"A few steps above"--who are you to say that?
'Pervs'--because men on here like to be physical with a woman they find attractive? Wow.:crackup:
Continue what you are doing and you will get the same results. The OP came here with a question and if he isn't willing to try new things, which may include a change of his position in this matter, than he can't get help here.
You are making a kiss into something earth shattering--it's not. When you get your first kiss you will realize that it isn't some mystical thing that transforms your life. Rather its a simple one of life's pleasures. :woo:
Look, get your first kiss than come back here and talk to us. Judging, or telling is what you do or don't like about something you haven't done, is like me saying I don't like cookies, and never even trying to eat one.
Now, are you ready for some advice? Or do you want to continue on telling us how sacred a kiss is?
Do you realize that you will not find a woman that has never kissed a guy before. If you are 25. Most woman your age have kissed 50+ guys, some less, and some maybe even none. But, the chance of you being on a date with her are almost 0, because it is so rare.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.