Kissing a statue.. emotionally unavailable women.

[MillionBillionaire]

Was on a date with a co-worker. Had high hopes for this one. We had good flirty exchanges while at work..

So we had a date for 3pm-12:00am on Saturday and we spent our whole day at the hotel.

The whole day she was doing 95% of the talking.. but it was all about her ex.. and how she can't trust anyone and how she always #ucks up blah blah blah....

I would shut her up making out with her.. she wouldn't push me away but she just sat there kissing me like she was a soul less hooker.

I'm just really dissapointed.. I was hoping there would be tons of chemestry.. but instead it turned out to be a therapy session..

I am officially burnt the #uck out from dating and sarging.. this nazi b1tch [literally] left me feeling drained after our date and I came in feeling soo strong and centered.


What did I learn? ... Attraction does not equal chemestry and next emotionally unavailable women.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

You had a 9 hour date? edit: not 7 haha

But yeah I know where you're coming from, that's why I always go into a date keeping expectations reasonable, but maintaining confidence.

What you said about attraction not equaling chemistry is so true. Last girl I saw was really pretty and all, but she was just emotionally unavailable and kissing her would rarely even make me hard.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Attraction does not equal chemestry and next emotionally unavailable women.

Next them faster next time around - much faster. Get in the (great) habit of separating yourself from girls who are a complete waste of time.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Yes it was a 9 hour date and I thought it was on.. she thought it was on because she shaved her carpet. It was creepy how I was getting 100% compliance but she showed 0 affection..

I'm sure she would have just layed there if I would have pushed for sex like an azzhole..

"Red flag" right after our first kiss she said "you better not fvck me over or I'll kick your ass.." or something like that...

I'm really bummed. It's not even really the sex.. yeah I'm bummed about that too but I thought we would have a fun and flirty day leading to hawt sexx.. instead I was an emotional tampon.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

9hr hang-out with a co-worker @ a hotel? I get it probably not a lot of options in Minnesota.

IME emotionally unavailable women will f*ck like rabbits, but that's all they are good for.

Atleast you are ahead of the game & you know this sh*t now. Be glad she told you dude, otherwise you'd have no clue and would be an emotional tampon.

 

[skinnyguy]

Did you tell her she was being annoying and needed to shut up about her ex?

 

[Heisenburger]

I've never known a statue to bend down and give you a bj.

Ditch her.

 

[old married dude]

It's odd how attraction does not = chemistry, but that's just how it goes sometimes. I've kissed a few 9's or better that I felt nothing with even though they were hot.

There have also been times where I was not too particularly attracted to someone until there was some sort of physical contact which resulted in some surprise chemistry.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Did you tell her she was being annoying and needed to shut up about her ex?

At one point I shut her up by kissing her and we made out for 20 seconds... then she went back to being a black hole.. sucking all the emotional energy from me.

I was trying a rather new approach for me.. witch was let her do 80-90% of the talking and I'll be attentive and mysterious...

I should have said something like.. "When you are with me I want to have fun.. so snap out of it or i can bring you home."

 

[Solomon]

Nothing worse than a chick who talks about her ex, Nothing turns me of faster. I've learned that a chick who you haven't banged talking about her EX is a red flag. I recently cut a chick off for that

 

[SmooveMooves]

You guys need to start expressing how you feel. If a chick is being annoying constantly talking about her ex, on a date with YOU? You need to be just like you said and say 'stfu about you ex, or I'll take you home'

We guys beat around the bush to much, its time to start busting chops. And if I were you, and I she brought up another date Op, I'd say 'You're not ready' and let her hamster sit over that.

Also, I wouldn't care if you lived in the Grand Canyon, no dates longer than 2 hrs. A 9 hr date is insane. Wtf.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

You guys need to start expressing how you feel. If a chick is being annoying constantly talking about her ex, on a date with YOU? You need to be just like you said and say 'stfu about you ex, or I'll take you home'

We guys beat around the bush to much, its time to start busting chops. And if I were you, and I she brought up another date Op, I'd say 'You're not ready' and let her hamster sit over that.

Also, I wouldn't care if you lived in the Grand Canyon, no dates longer than 2 hrs. A 9 hr date is insane. Wtf.

9 hour date in a hotel where I was planning on having a whole night filled with hawt sexx... all signs pointed to GO GO GO! When I told her about the hotel she was like "Oh Haaay!" And we were alll super flirty and crazy hitting it off. She even waited for me to pick her up outside her house as I rolled up... texted me non stop untill the date .etc

I think sh1t hit the fan when we started drinking and smoking at the hotel..

How do you go from a fun cute bubbly flirty 26 Y.O. to a depressed, given up, revengeful blah blah blah... when you are on a date?!....

here is a red flag tho.. one of our first conversation we ever had in my car was her telling me about how she wants to have kids and get married.. so then I rrreeeaaallly thought it was on lol...


but nope.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

9 hour date in a hotel where I was planning on having a whole night filled with hawt sexx... all signs pointed to GO GO GO! When I told her about the hotel she was like "Oh Haaay!" And we were alll super flirty and crazy hitting it off. She even waited for me to pick her up outside her house as I rolled up... texted me non stop untill the date .etc

I think sh1t hit the fan when we started drinking and smoking at the hotel..

How do you go from a fun cute bubbly flirty 26 Y.O. to a depressed, given up, revengeful blah blah blah... when you are on a date?!....

here is a red flag tho.. one of our first conversation we ever had in my car was her telling me about how she wants to have kids and get married.. so then I rrreeeaaallly thought it was on lol...


but nope.

As the saying goes, if she doesn't text/call (or in this case, talk about) you when she's drunk, then you're not "the one" (i.e. no tingles). 9 hour date in itself wasn't too bad - sticking to her for the entirely of the date was. After hour 2 or 3 tops, you should have kicked her out -

You: "Well, I'd really hate to have this room go to waste..."
Her: "What do you mean?"
You: "I mean, it's time for me to go find some entertainment..."
Her: "You're calling me 'boring'?"
You: "Yes, and I'm also saying it's time for you to go. Bye."

(proceed to go hunt for another girl, or call one you know)

 

[om1xr]

Emotional intelligence anyone.

If your game is based on logic and you don't make her go through emotional rollercoaster and different feeling then she will be bored and the date will be boring as he!l. Or she may be a narcissist looking for attention and who is a master at showing no emotions but again the essence of game is to have an interesting/impressive lifestyle, love women and make them go through different feeling and use your absence to make them fall in love with you because the fall in love with their imagination and when you are together for 9hrs on the first dates then there is no room for imagination.

Again mastering emotional intelligence is the key to success with women and there is a big difference between being emotional intelligent and being a wimp who is crying how he feels most of the time.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

Emotional intelligence anyone.

If your game is based on logic and you don't make her go through emotional rollercoaster and different feeling then she will be bored and the date will be boring as he!l. Or she may be a narcissist looking for attention and who is a master at showing no emotions but again the essence of game is to have an interesting/impressive lifestyle, love women and make them go through different feeling and use your absence to make them fall in love with you because the fall in love with their imagination and when you are together for 9hrs on the first dates then there is no room for imagination.

Again mastering emotional intelligence is the key to success with women and there is a big difference between being emotional intelligent and being a wimp who is crying how he feels most of the time.

For real tho I played this one by the book.. read the Corey Wayne book and watched most of his videos and read "No more Mr Nice guy." We both waited like 12 days for this date.. and I didn't tell her the details of the date until I had too..

And emotional intelligence is what I prude myself on.. if a girl is not saying no.. but not reciprocating affection.. then wtf are you supposed to do? Keep going.. witch was at this point until she was naked... and be a man... untill sh1t gets wierd because she is just laying there like I'm a rapist... not showing any affection.

**** was wierd... she prolly started talking about her ex bf while she was naked..

I'm really bummed because when she was all fun and flirty I was on cloud 9... now I'm not really sure what to do when I see her tonight.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

As the saying goes, if she doesn't text/call (or in this case, talk about) you when she's drunk, then you're not "the one" (i.e. no tingles). 9 hour date in itself wasn't too bad - sticking to her for the entirely of the date was. After hour 2 or 3 tops, you should have kicked her out -

You: "Well, I'd really hate to have this room go to waste..."
Her: "What do you mean?"
You: "I mean, it's time for me to go find some entertainment..."
Her: "You're calling me 'boring'?"
You: "Yes, and I'm also saying it's time for you to go. Bye."

(proceed to go hunt for another girl, or call one you know)

I agree with this 100% .. everything was gravey until she got tipsey and high... I should have kicked her out....

but I was in the process of stripping her cloths off and kissing her through out the 9 hour ordeal..

 

[DragonBlood]

I was in the process of stripping her cloths off and kissing her through out the 9 hour ordeal..

No music or documentaries playing in the background. You didnt give her anything to fill her mind with so she filled it up with BS problems, which you seem to allow to continue without verbal protest or pulling back.

You needed to get her focus off her self doubts and back onto the fun, the chemistry and you.

 

[Skyline]

Alcohol is a downer.

She started being emo when she starting drinking

Solution : don't introduce alcohol.

 

[MillionBillionaire]

I walk into work feeling down because I miss my ex and I felt rejected..

I walk to the time clock and I hear that sexy fun flirty voice "Haaayyy baby!..." instantly lifts me up...

What gives?! At least sh1ts not awkward... I'm thinking about asking her out again..

 

[El Suave]

You might want to let her ask you out this time. You spent time with her and didn't fvck and then you want to ask her out again? You will look weak and might friendzone yourself. Let her come to you and next time don't take her to a hotel. She lost that privilege! Next is a bj in the car in the parking lot. Let her work her way up in your good graces.